Gifts for the Graduating Lady

Graduation season is upon us and we want to share our favorite gift options for the scholar lady in your life.

Every graduate needs a portfolio for job interviews.  We love this one from Coach. Portfolio -

A portfolio from your graduate’s university would be a nice gift as well.

Other great gifts that can be found in your graduate’s university bookstore (many are online as well) are Diploma Frames and Alumni/Alumna apparel.

A quintessential gift for graduates is a pen.  While we like pens, we are fans of pens that are not run of the mill, like this Cross Classic Century Pen shown in Tender Rose.  Paradise Pen has a variety of options.  This pen would look great inside the portfolio. 🙂

Things Remembered has great graduation gifts that can be personalized.  We really like the Tassel Frame and the Floating Picture Frame.

There is, of course, the gift that keeps on giving – money.  While cash is great, we love the idea of gift cards.  Find out what interests your graduate has and go from there.  You could always give gift cards to Coach, the graduate’s university bookstore, Things Remembered, or Paradise Pen!

Happy Shopping and Our Best Wishes to the Class of 2007!

Glossy Links

On behalf of Mix Maven, we appreciate all of your votes on the hair style she should wear to her cousin’s wedding. Voting is still open, so please feel free to let us know what style you like the best!

Shouts out to Snazzy Finds, Yummy 411, The Clothes Horse, The Trendsetter and Daddy Likey for showing us love by adding us to their blogrolls. All of these ladies have great blogs! If you would like your blog listed on our blogroll, feel free to let us know.

We think you know that the Ladies of P&G love to shop. 🙂 We found a great Ebay page that offers great deals on M.A.C. products. We have received great customer service from this seller! It has come in handy since a certain Lady of P&G is a M.A.C. junkie. (Joy and Element point at the same time to Mix) 🙂

For all you internet shoppers, here are tips on how to be safe while shopping online.

We were in Banana Republic recently and this top looks way better in person. You must go see for yourself and the store has this in a gorgeous shade of royal blue.

Carol’s Daughter has some beautiful shades of nourishing lip glosses. Yum!

Comes The Dawn

I took a class last Spring dealing with counseling women.  The Professor shared this poem with the class and I have been in love with it ever since.  The title alone reminds me that we always have a new day to look forward to.  Enjoy! ~ J.R.

Comes The Dawn by Veronica Shoffstall

After a while, you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul.

And you learn that love doesn’t mean possession and company doesn’t mean security, and loneliness is universal.

And you learn that kisses aren’t contracts, and presents aren’t promises…

And you begin to accept your defeats with your head up and your eyes open, with the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child.

And you learn to build all of your hope on today, because tomorrow’s ground is too uncertain, and futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight.  Yet each step taken in a new direction creates a path towards the promise of a brighter dawn.

After a while you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much.

So plant your own garden, and nourish your own soul instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.

And you learn that you really can endure…

That you really are strong,

and you really do have worth.

And you learn and you learn…

With every good-bye you learn.

Help Wanted

Hey P&G Readers,

We hope you all had a restful holiday, and reflected on the sacrifice of our Armed Forces.

Now onto today’s post.

First of all, I am not having a hair crisis. Secondly, I am not an indecisive person. Here is the story: One of my cousins will be getting married next month. I want to try a fresh, new look for the wedding.

In the past, I have worn a similar updo to the ubiquitous Beyonce, but putting a shower cap (more like 2 shower caps and a scarf around the edges) is problematic.

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I love this Kelly Rowland look, but the hairstyle would be too distracting as no one has ever seen me with long, voluminous hair. Everyone would be fawning over me, and that would not be cool, after all, the day/weekend belongs to the bride. 😉 {My hairstyles tend to be on the conservative side.} (Sidebar: Kelly Rowland has a flawless look. I am looking forward to the release of her new album.)

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I like 3 hairstyles. Two seem no maintenance for the weekend (notwithstanding shower cap issues). The other hairstyle looks like slight maintenance. This is where your assistance is needed. I cannot decide which style I want to wear for the weekend. I will be traveling to another state, so the style must be able to hold up in those conditions. So it is time to vote!! In the comment section, please select 1 hairdo:

  1. Eva 1
  2. Eva 2
  3. Rihanna

The hairdo with the highest vote will be the one I will wear to the wedding.

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In a future post, I will reveal the hairdo to everyone. I am looking forward to reading the comments. Thank you in advance. 🙂

My Coif is in Your Hands,

Mix Maven

The Joy and Defeat of Sandals

I love the spring and summer seasons for many reasons, but my number one reason is sandals! I love that I can get an inexpensive pair of shoes to match any and every outfit for the sunshine months. Target is a great place to get inexpensive, but quality sandals. I have been watching two pair in particular and they recently went on clearance for 50% off! Here are the pairs in question…

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Don’t let the picture fool you. This Mossimo Teal wedge is so adorable – I showed it to my husband in passing and he suprised me with them the next day. When I saw they were marked down at another store, we went to Target to exchange them. The lady at the customer service desk told me she has them in black and they are so comfortable – I said great, now give me the difference! LOL! As she scanned my shoes, she said, “These shoes have not been marked down” and she looked at her screen and gasped, “Damn!” I knew I had a good deal then.

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There is such a thing as love at first sight. I had to have these and when I saw they were also 50% off, I could have danced in the aisle. The color blue on this shoe is so rich and depending on who you ask, blue is the color for the summer. When you try on this shoe, as Mix Maven pointed out, it may feel like you need more support with keeping the shoe on your foot. It works for yours truly though. 🙂

Speaking of that shade of blue, Mix Maven and I were out doing what we do best – looking at shoes and M.A.C. eyeshadows. It was when we walked past a Nine West store that I fell in love once again. We go in and I try on the Nine West Chailyn – I asked for a common size nine and all they had was an 8.5 (too small) and a 9.5 (too big)! The salesman checked the system and there isn’t a size nine in the whole state. Woe is me! 😦 I have yet to find this shoe in that shade of blue any where else. I see someone on Ebay is looking for them as well and it was there that I found a pic of them…..

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Check out the “As Seen In” page on Nine West’s page, scroll to the second picture at the top and you will see them on the lady leaning on the silver ball. I know that sounds crazy, but that’s what she’s doing.

If I find them, or any other pair that makes my heart flutter, I will be sure to let you know. 🙂

Joyful Radiance

Male Erogenous Zones


Okay ladies it time to delight the wonderful parts of the male body, therefore it is only natural that we as women should want to be more curious about what spots must be touched to drive a man wild with desire. The erogenous zones are areas of the male body that have heightened sensitivity. Stimulation of these areas usually results in sexual response, although not every individual responds in the same way to the stimulation of all erogenous zones.

Of course these erogenous zones are in no particular order. So we can choose to see which seems to drive our man the wildest.

His Ears

Bundles of nerve endings are in and around the ears, making them ultra sensitive to your touch. Use the pads of your index finger and thumb to massage the outer ears with slow, firm movements. Gently squeeze the earlobes. Explore the area behind the ear with your lips and tongue, and then blow lightly. Don’t be shy about making noise while you’re lingering there — the sound of your breath and moans is a huge turn-on for most men.

His Lips

It is very unlikely that a man will not enjoy kissing his partner. The more you kiss the better. Lips are sensitive and for men it is easy to get him aroused just from kissing. Kissing lets him know that there is (probably) more “good stuff” ahead and that starts his mind fantasizing.

His Neck

The neck is always a great place to turn on your partner. There are several things to keep in mind here, most importantly control yourself. Hickies may have been the big thing when you were younger, but most men hate them, especially when they have to wear turtlenecks for a week! (If you must suck for blood, keep the hickies to places that are usually covered by clothes). Try to have a moist mouth, but don’t slobber! Cover different areas of his neck with tender kisses, using the areas under/behind the ears for extra stimulation. Light nibbling and tugging usually work really well also. Start out soft and gentle; as he gets into it, slowly go harder and wilder to release his beast within.

His Scalp

The scalp can be very sensitive to stimulation, and since he’s probably not expecting you to give any attention to it, surprise him. Many men like to have a gentle head massage or scratching, so if you have nails, gently run your hands through his hair in circular motions while lightly scratching his scalp.

His Chest

To many men, the chest is one of their favorite body parts. To appreciate it is to appreciate the man. Massage it and occasionally whisper how much you love how hard it is (especially if your man works out). Nipples are highly sensitive and should be sucked and nibbled on. Just remember to start out a little slower and work up to harder techniques. Watch for discomfort, some partners have a lower pain threshold then others, so again, communicate.

His Inner Thighs

Inner thighs are always a great place to turn your partner on, as they don’t get touched much during every day life. Whether it is touching, kissing, licking, or nibbling, virtually everything you do around this area will feel good.

His Glans Head

This is the pinnacle of stimulation for a man. The glans head is the purplish, mushroom shaped mass at the top of a man’s penis. This is the most sensitive part of his body and concentrating on it is the easiest way to get him off. Men with foreskin have a more sensitive glans head and sometimes need to be handled more gently.

His Perineum

The perineum is the area between the scrotum and the anus. There are a lot of nerve endings there and it is quite responsive to gentle fondling. For a smoother experience, try using a little artificial lubricant or massage oil. You may want to try vigorously massaging the perineum just prior to orgasm; this gives many men a rush of pleasure.

His Anus

The Anus has a large number of nerve endings surrounding it and it is very sensitive. The proper stimulation of this area can heighten a man’s pleasure.

His Scrotum

The scrotum is the sack that holds the testicles. This is a very sensitive and very fragile part of a man’s body. Applying too much pressure to the testicles will cause immense amounts of pain. This does not mean to stay away from them; it just means to be very gentle. To really get your man going, fondle his testicles gently in one hand. Even more erotic and far more appreciated is to lightly suck or lick the scrotum (try getting one or both testicles in your mouth and humming).

Remember to keep in mind that it pays to learn about both what makes your man go over the edge with pleasure and the way to get him there.

Enjoy the scavenger hunt!!!!

Sensual Element

Glossy Links

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Ne-yo Fever!  We are really feeling Neyo’s new song “Do You” and Fabolous’ new song featuring Ne-Yo called “Make Me Better” – check out both new videos at’s Soulful.

We’re still feeling “All Because of You” 🙂

One of our favorite Whitney looks!  We are really hoping the Ray J. rumors aren’t true.

Jawn Murray always has interesting info!

It’s no secret that we love Zane – she has great topics on her MySpace Blog.  And yes, gas prices will keep us home this weekend!

Laila should have won!  But we have so much more respect for her since she rocked on Dancing With The Stars.

While we are complaining, Melinda should have won too! 🙂   Looks like the Tamyra Gray situation all over again.  But our best to Jordin – she can sing.

If anyone is trying to deal with a break up, check this list of ideas out.  We especially like #9!

There are great “build your own bikini” pieces at Newport News

And for a sweet summer look, check out Old Navy’s outfits.  Hot, yet cool!

Our Cultural Taboo

The Ladies of Pumps and Gloss do not endorse the use of the “n-word” by any one, regardless of race, at any time.  This article is based on a 20/20 episode that aired Friday about Social Taboos – the use of the “n-word,” homosexual actors in hollywood, and mothers who don’t enjoy their job as a mother, among other things.  During the piece that aired, comedian D.L. Hughley stated that the “n-word” belongs to white people – they created and they should be able to use it.  While D.L. did share some thought provoking opinions, we find that particular statement totally unacceptable.  Read this article for yourself and tell us what you think….

Who Can Say What, and When?

Exploring the Minefield of Language Taboos in America

These days it seems no one can say the right thing. From Don Imus to Sen. Joe Biden, D-Del., to Isaiah Washington … everyone has stuck their foot in their mouth. But why this sudden rash of taboo language? Where is that invisible line and what happens when someone crosses it? Who can say what in this country? And have we all just gotten too politically correct?

Onstage, provocative language about race has made comedians like Chris Rock famous. But now, even the comedy club is no longer a safe haven. Michael Richards of “Seinfeld” fame learned that during a very unfunny rant onstage at the Laugh Factory, a place where black comics have been saying the n-word for decades. The video of Richards’ tirade is now infamous. Captured by a cell phone, Richards calls a group of hecklers the n-word over and over again, until some patrons leave the club in disgust.

Fellow comic D.L. Hughley said the n-word is “the atom bomb of words.” He also points out that, sadly, its terrible history is homegrown. “It is an American invention. That word is as American as apple pie. It’s baseball, hot dogs, apple pie and the n-word.”

‘More Than a Word’

Michael Eric Dyson, author of “Debating Race” and a University of Pennsylvania professor, said that Richards’ use of the word is deplorable. “The word when used by hateful white people was connected to a history of horrible behavior … lynching, stabbing, murder. So that word is always more than a word. Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will always kill us.”

But is there a double standard? The n-word is heard publicly mostly in the music and other cultural aspects of African-American life. For more than a century, the word was owned almost exclusively by white people to inflict harm. But today, many African-Americans have tried to redefine the word and make it something positive inside their community. Is it fair for one group to be able to use the word, while others cannot? Dyson said yes. “Whether you agree with that strategy or not, that’s a legitimate attempt to try to take the poison from a term, empty it out, and then circulate it as a term of endearment. You had it, you did your thing with it, let us do ours.”

Some African-Americans go even further and say even members of their own community should stop using the word. The taboo surrounding the n-word is so strong that some politicians, like New York City Councilman Leroy Comrie, the Rev. Jesse Jackson, and Rep. Maxine Waters, D-Calif., have proposed banning it. And recently Oprah Winfrey, along with hip-hop king Russell Simmons, called on rap artists to voluntarily limit their use of the word.

Beyond Black and White

If the taboo extended only to the n-word or even other blatantly racist speech, like that hurled by Don Imus at the Rutgers women’s basketball team, the rules may be easier to follow. But today the taboos about language are not so black and white; more accurately, they are different depending on whether you are black or white.

On the day Biden announced his presidential bid, it was what he said about fellow Sen. Barack Obama, D-Ill., that captured all the headlines. Biden referred to Obama as “the first mainstream African-American who is articulate and bright and clean…” He was skewered by some in the press as a racist, but he said that was definitely not his intent. Some were confused — why was the word “articulate,” normally a compliment, now considered racist?

Dyson said he does not think Biden is racist, but said that the word “articulate” is a code word and it reminds him of something Martin Luther King Jr. said just before he was assassinated. “King said at the end of his life, ‘Most Americans are unconscious racists,'” he said.

Double Meanings and Double Standards

A few weeks after the Biden flap, Sidney Poitier appeared on an Oscar special with Winfrey. On that program, Poitier called fellow actor Jamie Foxx “articulate.” Why did that comment, the same comment, not grab headlines? Dyson said it’s different, that “[Poitier’s] saying it as a proud black man about another black man. When Biden says it, as a white man, whether he wants to or not, what he’s signifying is … a dominant white superior position, being able to assign who’s articulate and who’s not.”

This double standard has left some people, especially white people, complaining that the rules about what you can say, where you can say it, and who you can say it to, have become confusing and unfair. Hughley said it’s simple: “How about you call us equal. Equal would be fine.”


Don’t Take No for an Answer

I was talking with a friend recently who applied to a doctoral program.  She was denied admission by her school of choice – she had not applied to other schools.  She told me she was not going to pursue the degree any further.  That was that.

I’m not normally the fussing type (I can see my husband rolling his eyes now), but I had to fuss at this dear friend.

Ladies, there are times when the world will tell us NO in no uncertain terms.  That does not mean in any way, shape or form that we are not worthy or we are not good enough.  There are other lovers.  There are other jobs.  There are other schools.  There is always an alternative.  Where there is a “Plan A,” there should always be a “Plan B.”

Don’t lay down and die!  I love this version of this song.

If you don’t follow your dreams, you will, in essence, die.  I know that sounds drastic, but as time passes, you will have regrets and that is just not the life I want for you!

I leave you with this thought.  Langston Hughes’ poem “A Dream Deferred” says:

What happens to a dream deferred?

Does it dry up
like a raisin in the sun?
Or fester like a sore–
And then run?
Does it stink like rotten meat?
Or crust and sugar over–
like a syrupy sweet?

Maybe it just sags
like a heavy load.

Or does it explode?

Don’t Take No for an Answer!  YES is out there waiting for you! 

Joyful Radiance

Pumps & Gloss Summer Picks

Summer is fast approaching, even though the temperature has not always reflected this fact. Summer means that we entering pedicure season. Ladies and, some gentlemen, do not forget to keep your bi-weekly appoints. Oh and some of you will need to go every week!! 😉

Summer also means road trips, catching up on projects that winter delayed, sipping lemonade on the veranda, hanging out with friends at the beach, family reunions. There are many fun things to do.

The ladies of Pumps & Gloss have come up with their favorite summer must-haves. Grab SPF 50 and get ready to have fun.

Mix Maven loves gold. Gold represents the light of the sun. Check out her first pick, the J.Renee Diva Sandal. This sandal is ready for action. Mix Maven is a diva, so the shoe choice is quite apropos.

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M.A.C. Cosmetics Bronzer is another summer must have. Mix Maven says that every woman needs a bronzer, regardless of her skin color. Bronzers give you a healthy, luxurious, guiltless glow.

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When Joyful Radiance saw this Pink Floral Linen-Blend top in the June 2007 issue of Essence, she knew she had to have it. It has “summer” written all over it. Affordable and darling!

Joyful Radiance loves the Chinese Laundry “Wesley” Heeled Sandal. She wants them in all three colors.

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Sensual Element picks the Barika sandal from Aldo. She exclaims, “beautiful for the night on the town.”

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Sensual Element likes heat, but she knows sometimes the best thing to do is keep things cool and nice. She picks this appealing black and white outfit. Sensual notes, “cute outfit to match the shoes.”

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Take time for yourself and the family, catch up on those books that you are meaning to read, and continue to read Pumps and Gloss. 😉 Pumps & Gloss wishes you a fun and relaxing summer.