Counting Up The Cost

I enjoy fashion like the next fashionista. I believe, if anything, fashion is art.

Recently, I decided to subscribe to Vogue magazine. I enjoying looking at all the fashions and, of course, the items I really like are uber-expensive. I could not, in conscience, purchase this cute green clutch in the recent edition of Vogue.

Marie Claire and Essence have a similar “Splurge vs. Steal” concept where the fashion editors compare expensive to less expensive clothing options. In some photos, you cannot tell the difference between the items being showcased. Obviously, when you can see and touch, the perceived comparison will diminish. The Frugal Fashionista and The Budget Fashionista do extraordinary work in creating inexpensive looks from celebrity looks and alerting readers of sales and discounts.

The question I pose to you is, “how are people paying for these luxury brands?” As we all saw in “Sex and the City,” it was not just the rich buying the luxe brands. Carrie Bradshaw, a writer, living in a rent-controlled apartment in Manhattan always conjured up away to get her Chanel and Manolo Blahnik pumps and other luxury designer wares. And I know you all remember the time when Carrie was trying to purchase her apartment from her ex-boyfriend. Miranda asked her where did her money go and Carrie acknowledged that her money went on her back or feet.

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I have been reading articles about young girls, 8-10 years old, that want Prada and Gucci. Now, when I was 10 years old, I was not even thinking about getting clothes from the GAP. According to one report, that having luxury items, albeit accessories are apart of being a child today. Even though I studied fashion magazines at the age, I still wanted ESPRIT. (Sidebar: Mama Maven would take me to a local boutique and purchase items for school and church. Of course, she would watch the sales vigilantly.) The troubling thing is that the parents are purchasing these luxe clothing brand for their children and they really cannot afford to do so and live in the blue ribbon district. So what are the parents trying to prove and why can’t they tell the children, “NO!!” Maybe because they cannot tell themselves “NO” either.

We need to refocus and realize that clothes (luxury/haute couture) do not make the person. (This does not mean you have a right to walk around frumpy dumpy.. NOT ON MY WATCH!!) We must be begin to challenge the societal notion of keeping up with the Joneses, who have no money either. We must also teach our children that there is a time and place for everything. When they are making that $200,000 (adjust for inflation) maybe then they can have a closet full of luxury designer wares. (and not if they live in the Northeast, Mid-Atlantic, West Coast and some parts of the Midwest.) Learn to say “NO” to the children and especially to ourselves.

Live Triumphantly,

Mix Maven

Talking Dirty

Since I am filling in for Sensual Element today, I feel the need to offer this disclaimer – I do not, in any way, shape or form, possess sexpertise like Sensual Element! LOL!  With that said, let’s talk about talking dirty in bed.

When you are in the heat of the moment with your lover, I think that is the best time to be uninhibited.  Be free to say and do what ever it is you are feeling – as long as it is respectful to your lover.  Why not spice things up a bit by talking dirty?

I found this hilarious clip about talking dirty – funny stuff, but offers some good tips:  

Here is a Q&A I found on – they have a great Sex and Love site!

Question:  My boyfriend keeps asking me to talk dirty to him during sex, but I have no idea what to say.   Do you have any suggestions?

Answer:  Whether you’re saying something sensual, making raunchy remarks or sharing a wild fantasy, you don’t want your carnal comments to sound forced, so just share the sexy thoughts that pop into your mind rather than trying to rack your brain for something racy. And remember, you don’t need to talk the entire session, let alone every time you’re doing the deed.

Conquer your nerves by starting simple. Tell your guy that you like the way he’s touching you, saying something like “It feels so good when you stroke me like that.” Try complimenting his body or telling him what you want himto do to you (“Lick my nipples,” “I want you inside me,” “Thrust deeper,” etc.). You may even find that voicing your desires can make the encounter more intense for you, too.

If you’re really tongue-tied and can’t think of anything to say, turn the tables and let him take the lead by asking what he wants to do to you or what you should do to him. Then you can take your cue from his lusty lingoand respond with some titillating talk of your own. After a few sessions like this, I bet your bedroom bantering skills will be top-notch.

Like Neyo sings, sometimes you just have to “Say It!” Great song to get things going!

Does talking dirty mean you have to be crass?  I don’t think so, but all that matters is you being comfortable with what you are saying.  If are aren’t feeling it, it will come off fake and that is so not sexy!  Be confident in your approach; otherwise, don’t do it!


Our Jams

Maybe we would give Tank another chance with him singing “Please Don’t Go.”

Sensual Element loves Trey Songz’ swagger on “Wonder Woman.”

We love “Wonderful” by Marques Houston, but…

Joyful Radiance wishes they did the remix for the video with Juelz Santana.

We love the remix of “Umbrella” by Rhianna with Chris Brown.

Neyo’s remix for “Do You” with Mary J. Blige is hot!

Mix Maven says she loves the versatility of Maroon 5’s sound – “they can sing everything from refined 80s pop to R&B-infused rock ballads,” which is showcased on “Little of Your Time.”

Our 100th Post

The Ladies of Pumps and Gloss are proud to celebrate our 100th Post!

We could not be more excited about the support we have received from our Friends – You, the readers, have embraced us from day one and we wanted to take this opportunity to thank you for reading, commenting on our posts and adding us to your blogrolls.

Thank You!

Stay tuned for more interesting topics and contest giveaways!

The Ladies of Pumps and Gloss

Mix Maven, Joyful Radiance and Sensual Element

Women Working It Out!

Love and Respect to the Plus Size Woman! 

I love that the Glamazons are doing their thing on America’s Got Talent!

The Glams have their own website  and I found the Museum of Sex on their Links page.  Alright now Glamazons!

The Glams also have a MySpace page – “The Pussycat Song” is a trip! LOL!

I also want to commend Mo’Nique and the contestants on “Mo’Nique’s Fat Chance.”  They did a photoshot with body paint and nothing else…. 

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I LOVE the confidence of these ladies!  The confidence these ladies exhibit should encourage us to do whatever it is we want to do, despite our weight, height, skin color, and features (not that I want to pose naked with body paint, but you get the idea) 🙂 .  Let’s value our diverse beauty.

Last but not least, let us applaud The Trendsetter!  She brings us posts that highlight the curvy woman.  The Trendsetter has great plus size related blogs on her blogroll.  If any of our readers know of any other blogs that celebrate the curvy woman, please share them with us!


Amy Winehouse

It was earlier this year when Mix Maven introduced me to Amy Winehouse. I loved her voice the moment I heard “Rehab….”

“…and if my Daddy thinks I’m fine…” Love that!

Maven then blessed me with a copy of Amy’s cd and WOW, despite her “interesting” appearance, this lady can sing and her creativity is amazing.

Check out “You Know That I’m No Good” and for the broken hearted, my personal favorite, “Back To Black

“Kept his d*** wet” – alright now Amy! LOL!

Amy’s “Tears Dry On Their Own” – has a great Motown feel to it.

My other fave song of mine on Amy’s cd is “Love Is A Losing Game.”

She sings this song!

Thanks Mix for introducing me to Amy’s music – it is a CD that you can play through without skipping any songs and Amy showcases her soul on each and every song.


Def Poetry

Happy Monday! We hope you had a wonderful weekend!

We recently ran across “Def Poetry” clips on Youtube and feel led to get the whole collection. 🙂 Here are a few of our favorite clips:

Erykah Badu – “Fans, Friends, Artists…”

Kim Fields – “How Come?”

Ursula Rucker – “What A Woman Must Do”

Frenchie – “F****g Ain’t Conscious”

Ishle Park – “Pussy”

What Every Woman Needs for a Sexy Night

Ladies, its time to get sexy.  Below we’ve compiled a list of items that we believe a woman needs for a sexy night. 

  1. Candles or Incense for subtle light and scent
  2. Romantic and/or Sexy Music –
  3. Champagne/Wine/Sparkling Juice
  4. Fresh Sliced Fruit
  5. A Cube
  6. A Vibrator
  7. A Bullet
  8. Lingerie including a Thong
  9. A Chair for Lap Dancing
  10. A Pole
  11. A Swing
  12. Lubricant
  13. Ribbed Condoms
  14. Feather or a Boa
  15. A Zane book to be read out loud
  16. High Heels
  17. Shiny Lips
  18. Hand Cuffs and/or Polaroid Camera – ONLY with someone you trust
  19. A Wig for a different look
  20. Flavored Lotion/Powder or Body Chocolate
  21. Body Paint
  22. Bedroom Games

Enjoy and remember to stay sexy and have LOTS of FUN!!!!!! Men don’t feel left out because you can help your special lady feel sexy by providing some items from the list.  We know we all have a few of these items on hand hiding in the special top drawer closest to the bed.  LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Until next time…

Sensual Element

Winner of the MAC Lipsticks giveaway….

We want to thank all of the P&G readers for their overwhelming responses to our first ever giveaway. Pumps & Gloss appreciates all our readers!!

And the winner of the MAC Lipsticks giveaway is …………..

Susan H. from California.

You will receive your gift very soon!!

Thanks again for your responses. Keep on reading and look out for more contests in the future!

The Ladies of Pumps and Gloss


Layers has been a recurring concept over the past few months: in Photoshop, applying blush, layer cake, and one of my favorite bloggers did a humorous piece on the layering phenomenon in fashion. Then there is my favorite layer-er of all, the Queen of Blending, a super talented make-up artist from Southern California. She uses several different eye shadow shades to create an uber-chic blended look. The naked eye may not be able to detect the layers, but they are there. Because of Q of B, I had to purchase Blue Brown pigment from MAC Cosmetics. Below are samples of her work. Her work is totally AWESOME!!
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We are all complicated layers. None of us hold one moniker; we are daughters, wives, mothers, friends, lovers, girlfriends, employees, supervisors, church members etc. For example, my friend SB is a son, husband, father, chef, friend, photographer, entrepreneur (S&B seasonings) YUM-OOH!!!

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He is also a Regional Men’s Ministry leader (responsible for creating fatherhood initiatives, mentoring programs and even a blog and website) and he still has to time to have a BBQ at his house. He is one of my best friends in the whole world!! ( I will bring the cornbread to the BBQ. Uhm er a make sure to use turkey breast burger patties.. thanks YO!!)

Do not let people define you as one of your layers. You all know I love MAC eye shadows, but I also love politics. (I am too excited about the marathon debate on C-Span) [Mr. Maven, please bring home some popcorn. 😉 ] I am also a student, wife, daughter among other layers.

Discover all your layers today

So Much Better from the “Legally Blonde” musical.

Mix Maven