Have Fun With A Condom

I know some people out there do not like condoms. I was on the Pill for the longest and my libido was lower than I liked. When I stopped using the Pill, and started using condoms on a regular basis, I was back to the Sexual Carob that I know and love.  Mr. Carob & I do not believe in the “condom-breaking” scenario that some cry about. If you know how to put a condom on, the likelihood of breaking or bursting is minimal.
Here are some fun tips from Cosmo:

How To Make Condoms More Fun

No need to bust out silly party tricks! Thanks to Cosmo’s genius tips, wearing protection will be so pleasurable, your man won’t ever bitch and moan about it again.

Check out Cosmo's genius condom tips! Wearing protection will be so pleasurable...Making condoms sound playful is easy (love glove, woody hoodie, peter parka…). But coming up with cutesy names isn’t enough to get a guy to like wearing one, despite the fact that they ward off unwanted pregnancies and STDs. Lucky for you, Cosmo has found ways to maximize pleasure while using protection. “It’s as simple as choosing the right rubber, making him feel at ease, and keeping the intensity high throughout the act,” says sexologist Yvonne K. Fulbright, PhD, author of Sex With Your Ex. When you do all three, “he won’t have the usual anxiety about losing his erection or not being able to climax.” What’s more, you’ll be able to milk more sensations out of safe sex too. We’re sharing it all right here.

Shopping Tips

Most people spend all of seven seconds choosing a condom, according to data from Trojan. But a last-minute dash to the drugstore can mean less satisfaction in the sack. Below, we explain how to pick a winner.

Size matters. The right fit completely changes how a guy experiences sex with a condom. One that’s too tight reduces sensation, takes longer to get on (which can deflate his erection), and is more likely to break. Quick sizing test: If you can’t roll the raincoat all the way down to the base of his penis, it’s not large enough. That said, an oversize one can slip off, and the extra material can make your dude feel inadequate.

Though the standard size of condoms is about 7 inches long, the length can vary up to an inch and girth sizes also range, so experiment with brands and styles (sites like list size categories).

Try a condom designed with a swirl or bulb at the end of it — it’ll say so on the box, usually with a word like twist or pleasure or spiral. These models fit securely around the base of his shaft while creating more friction near the nerve-packed head of his penis.

Consider a polyurethane prophylactic. Unlike latex, they transmit body heat, making intercourse feel more sensual. If you and your guy are committed and STD-free, try a lambskin condom. These also transmit heat, and many men swear this type feels more like skin on skin. But they only protect against pregnancy, since the natural, porous material can allow the transmission of STDs.

Let’s Get It On

Rolling one on doesn’t have to ruin the mood.

The faster you can slip on a safety sheath, the less likely he is to go limp. Minimize fumbling by opening the wrapper during foreplay. Pull the condom out, and place two drops of lube inside. This increases sensation at the supersensitive head of his penis. Place the opening over the top of his shaft. Hold it there with one hand, lightly squeeze the tip of the condom, and use the other hand to unravel it all the way down to the base of his member.

For a treat, use your mouth. Dab your lips with lube, then lightly suck the (nonspermicidal!) disc into your mouth with the nipple end inward. (Grossed out? Try a flavored love glove.) Carefully wrap your lips over your teeth and put your mouth at the head of his member. Push your lips against the ring of the condom, slide it down his shaft, and unroll the rest with your hand. Ta-da!

Pleasure-Maxing Moves

A condom needn’t come between you, him, and a climax.

Squeeze your legs together in missionary or doggie-style to create extra pressure.

Make a V with your pointer and middle fingers, then place it between your legs. Press it against the base of his penis as he thrusts. This gives him more stimulation where the condom is tightest (i.e., most numbing).

Buy a vibrating ring — Trojan, Durex, and LifeStyles sell them. It’s a plastic band attached to a buzzing nub. Place the band around the base of the condom, with the nub facing your clitoris, and enjoy the pulsating ride.

Find this article at: http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/sex/How-to-Make-Condoms-More-Fun

Have Fun,

Sexual Carob

Household Item or Sex Toy

Sex toy producers are coming up with clever items that can be confused as traditional household items.

What about this blush brush?


Can you spot which item is for the household or sex toy?

Take the household item vs. sex toy quiz.

Let me know your score.  I got 9/12, which is not too bad of a score.

Mix Maven 

Taking the G off the String

I have not been on a quest to find undergarments that would free me of visible panty lines (VPL). Despite that, I keep on stumbling on these items. One interesting product that I found to Guard the Lady Business, a strapless G-string.

This product from the Shibue Couture line helps ladies who do not want VPL, yet going “commando” is not option.

Shibue Couture Strapless G-String in Black Gold.

You are thinking how does this product stay on. Each panty comes with 12 adhesive front and back strips. I was curious about this product, especially if I had to go to the restroom. The website gives detailed instructions on how to use this product. According to the website, the strapless G-String should not replace the daily wearing of normal underwear.

Prices range from $32 to $38 and $10 for extra adhesive tape.

The G-string has become the quintessential sexy undergarment (lingerie, if you will) of choice for many women. Maybe the strapless G-string will take its rightful place in the pantheon of  lingerie.

Sexual Carob

Caught in the Act

Happy Friday Glossy Ones,

We all know that having sex in public places has its share of risks like someone catching you during a thrust in the restroom or at a friends’ house in their spare room.  Were you trying to get that quickie and the child comes down the stairs when they’re supposed to be sleep?  I’m sorry to say I do not have a story to share.  However, we would like to hear from you about your mortifying moment caught in the act. 

In addition, please share your story with Dana Squilla, she works for a national women’s magazine writing embarrassing/funny moments page. The topic she is currently pursing is, “My most mortifying caught in the act moment!”  She would definitely like to hear from anyone who would be willing to participate and share their story whether they were having sex in public, or someone walked in on them.  Dana’s email address is dsquilla@bauerpublishing.com.  I hope you will share your stories with Dana. 

I thought I would add some mild videos of people “Caught in the Act.’

I wish all of our readers a wonderful Chankkah, Christmas and Kwanzaa.

Have a wonderful and prosperous 2008 Glossy Ones.

Sensual Element


Source: http://www.kissing.com/lecture.html for William Cane

As I was driving to work earlier this week, I was listening to the radio and the topic was “The Art of Kissing.” I was thinking, wow this is a great subject for Friday. As I really started thinking, how does one perfect their kissing? I know I love a good kiss probably like anyone else reading this. Kissing can really stir up some emotions if the other person is great at kissing. I don’t know about anyone else but I have had some kisses that left me saying DAYUMMMMMMM.

I noticed there are plenty of books and video about the art of kissing, however, the station was discussing a book by William Cane and how he describes the art of kissing. When I went to the website http://www.kissing.com/lecture.html I was shocked to see that Mr. Cane makes appearances to colleges and universities.

Some of the topics covered by Mr. Cane topics covered include the psychology of kissing, how to avoid kissing diseases, and methods of making yourself more kissable in the eyes of the opposite sex. He also delights you with tips for more intimate kisses, advice on where men and women like to be kissed best (based on the first Internet kissing survey in history), bizarre kissing customs from around the world, the newest fads in French kissing, and point by point instructions for today’s trendiest kisses, including:

  the upside-down kiss
  the lip-o-suction kiss
  the vacuum kiss
  the music kiss, and
  the Trobriand Islands kiss.


The Art of Kissing, (St. Martin’s Press, revised edition 1995). Since the initial publication of his comprehensive kisser’s manual, The Art of Kissing, author William Cane has received thousands of phone calls, letters, and e-mails from readers with questions, concerns, and comments about their kissing techniques. In this revised edition of an international classic (now published in nineteen countries and seventeen languages), he shares their insights, responds to their questions, and calms their kissing qualms with more of the lip-smacking wisdom his fans have been waiting for. New topics include:

The kinds of kisses men and women like most (and least!) according to the results of the world’s first Internet kissing survey.

How to overcome your kissing shyness and kissing anxieties?

More lips-on instruction and wisdom from real kissers on how to perfect the first kiss, the eye kiss, the nose kiss, the neck kiss, the public kiss, and the wet kiss, as well as complete instructions for all-new kisses, including the butterfly kiss, the friendly kiss, and the lip-o-suction kiss.

I know I want to see which kisses were the worst and best. I can imagine sloppy kisses or those wet kisses where the person leaves your face wet (like you need a face washing or something). The book seems to be a pretty good buy. I am going to have to purchase the book and let everyone know what I really think of his publication. The radio personality was raving about the book. If anyone has read this book please leave a comment and let us know what you think about the “Art of Kissing” by William Cane. Also did it enhance your kissing abilities?

Kiss away my Glossy Ones!!

Sensual Element

Favorite Erotic Song

 What is your favorite erotic song?  Yes, I said erotic song and not love song.  I was talking to a friend of mine and she is making an erotic CD.  As she stated this, I thought wow this would make for a good writing.  The first song that came to mind is Erotic City by Prince.  We all know that is this an all time favorite as well as hot music to you’re your freak on. The lyrics are as follows:

All of my purple life
I’ve been looking for a dame
That would wanna be my wife
That was my intention, babe

If we cannot make babies, maybe we can make some time
F*** so pretty you and me, Erotic City come alive
We can **** until the dawn, making love ’til cherry’s gone
Erotic City can’t u see, f*** so pretty you and me

Every time I comb my hair
Thoughts of u get in my eyes
You’re a sinner, I don’t care
I just want your creamy thighs

If we cannot make babies, maybe we can make some time
F*** so pretty you and me, Erotic City come alive
We can **** until the dawn, making love ’til cherry’s gone
Erotic City can’t u see, f*** so pretty u and me

All of my hang-ups r gone
How I wish u felt the same
We can **** until the dawn (‘Til the dawn) (Until the dawn)
How I wish u were my dame (Baby  won’t you call my name)

Lyrics were taken from yahoo Music

Sorry Glossy Ones, I could not find a true Prince video for Erotic City.  So, I leave you with this adaptation

All I can say is Prince is the man.  This song makes you wanna do bad with another person.  I admit it took me back just thinking about the song.  Whew!!!!!!!! 

Let us not forget about Maxwell, Till the Cops Come Knocking.  The lyrics are as follows:

Didn’t you dig the way I rubbed yo back girl
Wasn’t it cool when first I kissed yo lips
Was it enough to penetrate yo dark world
Or were you embarrassed about the way you freaked
Well I wanna hold you
I wanna know you baby
If it’s alright

1 – Gonna take you in the room suga’
Lock you up and love for days
We gonna be rockin’ baby
‘Til the cops come knockin’
Pappa gonna have to leave
A message on the telephone baby
There won’t be no stoppin’ me
‘Til the cops come knockin’

Six on a Thursday night and you be jonesin’ baby
For a brother to hold you tight and keep on goin’

Last lover came and went
Didn’t even hug n’ kiss you n’ caress you
Gimme a call it’s cool the m’s all open
I’m open wider than oceans
I’ll be your lotion
If it’s alright

Gonna take you in the room suga’
Lock you up and love for days
We gonna be rockin’ baby till the cops come knockin’

Repeat 1

Please you tease you eat you
Make you feel so good inside
Loving you long if that’s alright?

Gonna take you in the room suga’
Lock you up and love for days
We gonna be rockin’ baby till the cops come knockin’

Repeat 1

Lyrics were taken from Yahoo Music.

Now when Maxwell came out with this song, everyone was singing this hit.  It was the new anthem for getting your groove on. 

So my Glossy one’s, I ask you what is your favorite erotic song?  Let us know at pumps and gloss.  You can email us your song with the best verse or just drop us a line in the comment section. 

Have an erotic weekend.

Sensual Element

Glossy Friday ~ 11/09/2007

Happy Friday Glossy Ones!

Pumps and Gloss


J. Holiday is cute as he can be.   He can put me to “Bed, bed, bed” any time!  I am guessing his next single will be “Suffocate” – check out J. Holiday performing it on Apollo.

Pumps and Gloss


Remember when everyone was saying “knockin’ boots?”  Here is H-Town with “Knockin’ The Boots” (above) and Candyman with “Knockin’ Boots” (below).

Pumps and Gloss


Ladies, a very important aspect to any relationship is the element of surprise.  One great way to keep your lover guessing is to have a variety of panties.  Not bloomers, as my Grandma used to say, but some sexy pieces that will have him helping you take your jeans off.


I love this “Polka-Dot Mesh Bikini Panty” from Lane Bryant (Sizes 14-28).

I am a huge fan of boy shorts – I love that they are comfy and hubby loves the sneak peak that they provide. 


I find stretch lace panties to be so comfortable.  These “All Lace Boy Shorts” are dainty and sexy all at once in sizes XS-XL at Target.


Old Navyhas a great variety of panties, boy shorts and thongs.  Love their colors!  Gotta get the striped pair at the very top!

Instead of posting a bunch of pictures of women’s backsides, go to the Panty section of Fredericks and check out the thongs and g-strings.  Victoria Secret’s Panty section also has some fab finds.  You can’t go wrong with either of these sites.

Now if you really want to surprise your lover, you have to get some crotchless panties.  Check out a collection of them HERE.

Pumps and Gloss


 from The Tyra Banks Show – Air Date: Thursday, November 8, 2007

  1. Don’t go longer than two weeks without sex
  2. Don’t be a b*tch
  3. Don’t be clingy
  4. Trust Him or Get Out
  5. Keep the relationship fresh
  6. Don’t let money rule your heart
  7. Love Yourself

Pumps and Gloss


Jodeci started off as the boys next door with their first cd, but, from then on, they blew us away with their sexy songs.  Here are some of my fave Jodeci songs:

Freek’n You

Let’s Go Through The Motions


Pumps and Gloss

Have a Wonderful Weekend!

~ Hot Stuff

Glossy Friday ~ 11/02/2007

Hey Glossy Ones!

Yall know how we do it on Fridays, so let’s get to it….


I love the hotness that is Nelly.  He looks so sexy in the pic on his website.  Who knew you could look sexy with brass knuckles?  I’m not even mad at Ashanti – work it out for the ladies at home Girl!  A lot of people are not feeling “Wadsyaname,” but I like it.  I love this lyric in verse two:

You playin with your toys, but your toys don’t bite,

See they don’t talk s*** and they don’t hit it how you like.

Alright now Nelly – but the right toy is great in a pinch! LOL!


How does Petey Pablo do that with his tongue at minute -3:04……and can any of you send instructions on how to do it? LOL!



While some think white is boring in the bedroom, it certainly doesn’t have to be.  Spice things up in this babydoll (above – Sizes XS-XL) and in this lacy bra and panty set (you can NEVER have too many bra and panty sets!) from Frederick’s of Hollywood (below – Bra Sizes 34B-42DD ; Panty Sizes S-2X).



This is strictly from my experience, so take it how you like!  This is a short list because it normally doesn’t take too much to get me ready, but there are times when I need a little push.  Here are my tips for women to get in the mood for sex:

  • Think about the last time you had great sex – let that memory increase your anticipation
  • Put on something sexy – if you look sexy, you will feel sexy
  • Wear your favorite sexy scent
  • Increase the length of fourplay – more stimulation will help increase your desire
  • Listen to your favorite male singer sing a love/lust song
  • Try a stimulation cream
  • Read a good erotica book – Zane is indeed the Queen of Erotica!

Let us know if you have any additions!


Ladies, do you remember where you were when you saw “You’re Making Me High” by Toni Braxton for the first time?!  Whew, I will take baby at minute -1:19 (YUM!) and baby at minute -0.33 (there is nothing sexier than a man who can flex his pecs!).

This song might have laid low compared to his other songs, but “Taste Your Love” by Horace Brown (remember “One For The Money?”)  is a classic in my book.  Great lyrics, nice beat, great lyrics, attractive guy, oh, and did I mention great lyrics?

Have A Great Weekend!

~ Hot Stuff

Sexy Halloween Costumes

Since Halloween is approaching, I decided to choose some sexy costumes.  Halloween is a fun time for the kids and it can be fun for adults too.  These outfits can be social, but I would rather wear them for bedroom games. 

Check out the sexiness of costumes from Lovers Lane and Frederick’s of Hollywood.


 Short dress are back again.  Lets go OLD SCHOOL!!!

Belly Dancer

 Put on that R. Kelly and move your body like a SNAKE.


It’s football season and you can be on the receiving end.

French maid

The french maid costume is always a classic.

Girl Scout

Ladies, you can always pretend to be a girl scout and let your lover sample your cookies. 


Referee a wrestling match or even some touch football.


Time for the nurse to take the patient’s temperature.

School girl

Learning can always be fun when you are with your teacher, but you’re in trouble and the principal wants you to stay after school in detention.  What’s a girl to do??????

 Sexy CEO

Take time out to romp around in the boardroom…better yet in your office.


Let’s not forget playing cops and robbers!

You can also find deceptively sexy Halloween costumes at retail stores.

Enjoy Halloween – better yet, enjoy these costumes when it’s not Halloween.

Have a wonderful weekend,

Sensual Element 

Sex and Food

The erotic power of food has been celebrated for centuries. Casanova was said to share oysters with his paramours to wet their sexual appetites. Greek and Roman cultures enjoyed a parade of ripe fruits and exotic dishes before engaging in sensual pleasures.

I asked a close friend of mine what was his first thought when he thinks of food and sex, and his first response was, “Two words come to mind…ORAL FIXATION.”  He said this because of the union of sexual intercourse with your five senses (hearing, seeing, smelling and tasting and touching).  You are either biting or sucking on something; now lets add some flavor.  Once you put it all together, you have the ultimate satisfaction of what you love to do, combined with the orgasmic flavor.  

According to the Cosmo.com article “How to Make Sex Even Yummier“, the following foods can help make your nights a little naughtier:

Fruit-flavored pops aren’t just for kids — they can cool you off when you’re heated up under the covers. After getting hot with kissing and foreplay, A young lady wrote that her guy likes to get a pop from the fridge and trace it around the inner arms, the backs of her knees, buns and along her inner thighs. “The sensation of this block of ice against sweaty skin is amazing — She practically melts the pop with her body heat alone.”

Seltzer Water
You know that bubbly feeling on your tongue after you sip carbonated water? A few drops on your breasts will provide just the right foreplay fizz. One young lady wrote that her boyfriend poured a few drops inside her lace bra, then blows on the droplets as they dried. It gave her this extra goose-bumpy tickle.”

Ice and Hot Tea
This hot-and-cold combo is so erotic, your man will never think of a tea party in the same way again. “Sip the hot tea so your mouth and tongue get as steamy as you can stand,” explains Lou Paget, author of The Big O: Orgasms. “Then go down on him so he feels the warmth of your mouth against his own hot skin. Next, suck on the ice cube to cool your mouth off.” When you go down again, the difference in temperature will drive him wild.

Soaked Cotton Balls
Drench a cotton ball in a sweet liqueur like amaretto or creme de menthe, then run it down his treasure trail and around and behind his testicles, licking up the liqueur as you go and planting tiny kisses on his most responsive body parts. The alcohol will evaporate quickly, leaving behind a tingly, cool sensation.

Pop Rocks
Sprinkle a few of these candies on your tongue just before puckering up. They’ll “explode” as you’re making out, and your tongue will feel a bubbly, popping sensation.: Pop Rocks are tingly and fun, but the main bonus is that  it will bring you back to when kissing was sexy in itself, not just a five-second detour on the road to sex.

Cake-Icing Tubes
Write a word or phrase on your man’s back with icing, then ask him to guess what it says. Spell out I love you or script dirty things you want to do to him. Or draw an arrow on your body to the spot you want him to touch. It’s a hint he’ll love to take — and lick off you later.

Too-Hot Treats
Nuking marshmallows, fudge or honey and pouring the mixture onto your man sounds like a yummy idea, but be cognizant of the potential for injury. Scorching gooey substances can cause superficial burns to the sensitive skin around a guy’s equipment (the same goes for candle wax). Stay in lukewarm territory.

As I was thinking about this topic, the first thing that popped into my mind was the movie “9 ½ weeks”.  I have included a scene from the movie.  A word of caution for those at work – you may want to watch this at home. JUST A WORD OF CAUTION!!!!!

Have a Tantalizing Weekend!

Sensual Element