Multiple Sex Partners = Better Sex

Recently, Kool Kitty and I were chatting and the topic came up about whether multiple sex partners made someone a better person at sex.  Well, we asked a few friends their opinion.   

Having multiple sex partners does not necessarily make anyone better at sex.  Some feel it does not make you skilled at pleasing your sexual partner.  A female friend believes all it takes is a one person to really show you how to perform certain acts to make them go wild.  Because we all know every individual you sleep with is different from another.  She states some key areas to having better sex are: 1) your partner has to teach you; 2) learn about sex and 3) practicing with one person could make you better.      

A young man agrees that multiple sex partners makes someone better at sex.  He believes you have to practice to get the experience.  The more you practice the better you become.  It’s the ride your bike theory.   

I personally believe one should learn what makes their partner crazy in bed (unless it’s a booty call) otherwise your sex life may not last very long with the one person.  I am not into how many partners you have been with, its more can you satisfy me.   I know no one wants to teach someone but sometimes I think we need to teach each other what makes one eyes roll to the back of the head.  So that one day when you reflect back you can feel the chill going up the spine because the LOVIN was so good.     

Ladies and gentlemen, let us know your thoughts on what equates better sex.  Do you believe it has to do with multiple sex partners?  Email us at   

Sensual Element


I was reading the latest copy of Marie Claire with Salma Hayek on the cover. Salma Hayek - Source: I hate the way the commentators on the post-awards shows, which I love to watch, describe her as being fat or euphemistically as curvy. Makes me sad because it is not cool to be gaunt and sickly. (See Kate Moss and the new and not-so improved Amy Winehouse.) As Rick James said, “Cocaine is a helluva a drug.”

Salma Hayek is one of the executive producers of “Ugly Betty”. I enjoy watching this show because, on some level, I can relate to the character on the show. I can relate to the general aspect of being different (eating, speaking, and having a different sensibility than my peers.) I had to embrace that an early age, as I was an immigrant child trying to navigate my way in the world in the early to mid-1980s. I adore Betty’s confidence and drive. If she were a real person, I would want her to be my friend because of her caring nature.

What I do not get about the show is why do they have put Betty is such ugly clothes. I cringe every time I see her wardrobe. I mean could they just make her look plain.
Have you ever seen “What Not To Wear” or “How Do I Look?” ? Why do the participants cry over their ugly clothes. It is so unnecessary. My aunt M and I have a name for the condition where people hold on to stuff, especially ugly things. We call it idolatry. These people define themselves by their unattractive and unflattering clothes. As I said in the Clean House post, “they are emotionally attached to the memories, not realizing that the things do not replace the thoughts in their minds.” I know if Ugly Betty was on one these shows, she would be crying over her hideous Blue winter jacket. The funny thing is, I would never ask UB to lose weight, just her attire for a fresh, affordable look. There has to be some happy medium that we could all agree to, but would that take away from the underlining ugly theme of the show. As my beloved Stacy and Clinton like to say, paraphrasing, bring the inside out!

I predict that in the final episode, seasons later, she will finally get a makeover and she will marry her boss, turned lover, Daniel.

I love this song because it was the theme song (different singer) of my favorite show, Coupling. How I miss that show…..

~Mix Maven~

When Heart and Mind Do Not Match

Hey P&G readers,

I could have titled this post, “WTF!!!”, but that would be inappropriate. Recently, my husband and I visited a church in Florida. We received a mild recommendation about this church, and I broke my cardinal rule, which is “Do not attend a church that does not have a website!” Oh, how I learned this lesson.

We walked into the sanctuary, which was reminiscent of a church we attended in another area of the United States. That should have tipped me off, but no, I decided to not be swayed by my negative thoughts, as I was there to worship. The church was having a prayer emphasis, SO FAR, SO GOOD! The women presented the program were wearing long dresses with large wide-brim hats. Why I did not run for the door, when I saw this, I do not know.

The women spoke about conducting prayer seminars around the world. I was intrigued by their testimonies because I, too, want to have a stronger prayer life. Yes, I used show my legs for Jesus, so you all know I have needed to walk closer to Him.

One of the woman motions to the A/V guy to play a DVD. I am thinking, “Cool, some video clips from their trips around the world.” Umh No!! It was a DVD about animal cruelty in the United States. We were not warned. Parents were not warned to remove small, impressionable children. I had to look away for most of the video, and got up, when I could not take it anymore. Oh, oh the narrator’s voice was

Alec Baldwin. Alec Baldwin - Source: (Soul Star will cover that issue!)

The purpose of the video was to encourage people to change their dietary habits. I do not think that was the best tactic to use. No person of leadership in the church should have allowed that video to be played. My friend, Joi, a pastor’s wife, thought airing the video was unbefitting of a church aiming to add new members to the roll. She would have stopped the tape and warned people, and if some wanted to continue to view the video, then the DVD would play on or show the program at the afternoon program.

As a member of the denomination, I was turned off by these ladies, so I can imagine how the visitors felt who were not members of the church.

What I realized that day,as we were driving back to the hotel, that people’s hearts are in the right place, but their minds are not! Shock value has its place in the world, but I think it has limits when evangelizing or converting people to a religion, promoting healthier eating habits, introducing new ideas and concepts. We need have wisdom and COMMON SENSE, when we are dealing with others.

I also learned that listening to your gut is too important. That is something that we underestimate because there are people who only use their gut to make decisions, and the results are heinous and costly. Using your heart (gut) and mind are a winning combination to successful living.

Live Triumphantly,

Mix Maven AKA Apple Diva

Dueling Libidos

To stay on track with Kool Kitty’s blog about communication, I recently read Heart and Soul’s February/March 2007 issue on “When your sex drives don’t match?”  I was very surprised to learn that according to a recent German survey, a woman’s libido fades four years into a relationship. My first thought was Hell to the Naw. Is this going to happen to me once I get married?  Then I think about some of my friends who are in relationships and they complain when their significant other wants sex more than they are willing to give.  Do all women feel as though they are sex toys and the husband or live in mate thinks sex is like cable on demand?  Remember ladies even though you may not feel in the mood, sometimes its good to keep that inferno glowing.  As I talk with my married friends and get their opinion about intimacy in a marriage, I get the sense sometimes you just don’t want to get busy when you’ve had a busy day and the kids are really testing your patience.  I ask them how to solve the issue.  Most of them give in and service their mate while others just say no.  Do we as women lose our sexiness once we snag that man? Are we keeping up the sexiness that brought that man to us?  We as women must remember we have to keep the sexiness going after the ‘I do’s’.  Because what would we think if the man was to let his sexy body go after a few years of marriage.  We would be thinking “WHAT THE HELL.”        What happens when the man has a low libido and the woman wants to have intimate sessions with her husband?  Women what do you do when you are with a man who doesn’t share the same sex drive you have?  Naturally you may be at your peak while the man is losing ground for sexual desires.  Do you cheat, get mad or demand to leave him for irreconcilable differences? A woman who’s husband was overweight avoided intimacy because he was having trouble getting it up.  The husband just wanted to drink beer and watch television.  He would pretend to be sleep whenever she approached him for sex.  Of course her first thought was to get sex from a different man.  However they shared so much more. It was suggested for them to get counseling, exercise and diet to rekindle that spark.     How can you make your love life better?  What kind of communication does the couple have?  According to the article people need to discuss their sexual appetite. Couples need to make plans to spend time together.  Book that vacation to get that love fest one seeks.  Its something about going away that brings passion out of individuals.  It may be no stress that puts the swing back in the libido.    I do believe that whether you are married or dating, one needs to be very candid about their sex drives.  In addition to remembering the core to a great relationship is REAL COMMUNICATION.  Sensual Element

Hot Celebrity News – April 19, 2007

Hello All,

Soul Star is back with a ton of celebrity news for ya. Here we go.

Usher News

Usher has confirmed that he will soon be marrying longtime girlfriend, stylist Tameka Foster. Usher will become instant step-father to Tameka’s three children. Usher gave an offical statement to MTV News following weeks of speculation sparked by photos of Tameka wearing a wedding ring. Usher, 28 said the wedding could take place before the end of the year. Foster, a 38-year old divorced mother of three caused quite a stir last January after she was spotted vacationing with the Grammy winner in St. Bart’s when she was still married. Usher’s mom and manager Jonetta Patton reportly disapproved of the affair and eventually fired Foster as her son’s stylist because “she didn’t think she was dressing him according to the caliber of the star he was.”

It is also reported on that Tameka maybe pregnant causing Usher to propose. Young, Black, And Fabulous is reporting that the baby is not Usher’s but her ex’s Ryan Glover. Drama. Usher better come out with Confessions Volume 2.

According to Women’s Wear Daily, Usher has just signed a multimillion dollar deal with Liz Claiborne Cosmetics to create a special cologne. He also says he plans to launch his own clothing and accessories line in the near future.

Parents Feel Oprah’s School Is Too Strict

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A South African news web site reports that parents feel that Oprah’s state of the art school for girls in South Africa is too strict. First on the list of grips is the visitation policy. Originally parents were allowed to see their children once every two weeks but it will be changed to once a month. The school also caps the number of visitors at four per student and all visits must be approved by the school at least two weeks in advance. The names of visitors must also match those on the security guard’s list before guests are allowed in. One parent said she was only allowed to see her child for two hours because she was held up at the gate for half an hour. Also the students are not allowed to use cell phones or send e-mails during the week, and can all their parents only on the weekends. Reportly the children were put on a strict diet of fruit, yogurt and sandwiches. Absolutely no junk food is allowed on campus, and parents aren’t allowed to even gift snacks to their kids. Any child caught with so much as a Snickers bar will lose points, which are obtained for “good behavior” and can be exchanged at school shop for clothes and caps. says the children were to share their concerns with Oprah herself during a satellite interview on “The Oprah Winfrey Show” but it was reportedly cancelled at the last minute by the school management. John Samuels, the excutive head of the school, says the rules were carefully chosen and implemented for a reason. He says the school has the security and well-being of the girls at heart in every respect. He feels that too much movement on the premise sat the weekend disturbs the school spirit.

Oprah agrees with Samuels releasing a statement saying, “Our goal is to protect the health, welfare and well- being of the students at the Oprah Winfrey Leadership Academy“. “As with other boarding schools, we provide a structured, safe and nurturing environment in which the girls can learn and develop.” Winfrey also denies junk food ban. She says, “Visitors are asked to bring books for students rather that unhealthy snacks, but there is no ban on junk food.”

Tyrese Defends Oprah

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Singer Tyrese is coming to the defense of Oprah releasing this statement, “There is a staggering amount of millionaires and billionaires out in the world that do nothing to effect positive change within society. The fact that Oprah Winfrey took a monumental step to create a school in south Africa for the betterment of African children rather then just speak of change is commendable.” “The Bible says, ‘No good deed shall go unrewarded,’ and there are many critics out in the world turning up negative stones to find a flaw in this wonderful gift donated to South Africa by Oprah Winfrey. I stand with Oprah in the fight for change and positive world reform and I hope that people realize there will always be struggle and without struggle there is no progression. “Please leave her alone and let the blessings she is offering outshine the public scrutiny she is facing. ” I agree with Tyrese. I feel that was a wonderful thing she did for South African children because there is definitely a need there. the conditions they live in are heartbreaking so this school gives them hope. You can’t please everybody, so Oprah keep doing what you do.

Dallas Austin Apologizes to Joss Stone And Christina Aguillera

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Dallas Austin is apologizing for statements he made recently about Christina Aguilera and Joss Stone having sex with producers in exchange for music tracks. Austin released a statement saying, “Every action generates an equal and opposite reaction. My statement about Christina Aguilera and Joss Stone was a reaction to an incident I care not to discuss in any forum, and while I may have felt justified, I do owe and apology to Christina, Joss and their families.” “The comments I made about Christina Aguilera and Joss Stone were purely an act of retaliation not of malice or cruel intent. As we all have our boling points, I sincerely apologize as this is not my character nor should I have let anyone’s actions push me to this limit. I have let my family, employees and business associates down with my actions. “All content and any malicious statements that were in my control have been removed from outlets that may have posted this. “please accept this as my formal statement and apology to all parties involved.” Wow I wonder what caused him to put them on blast like that. We’ll find out somehow I’m sure.

Vivica Fox Arrested For DUI
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Vivica Fox was arrested recently by the California Highway Patrol for driving under the influence. CHP officer Leland Tang said Fox, 42, was pulled over after her Cadillac SRX passed a patrol car on the Hollywood Freeway at 80 mph – 15 miles above the speed limit. fox was arrested after failing a field sobriety test, he said. She was taken to Van Nuys jail and submitted to two breathalyzer tests. The test results indicate her blood- alcohol level was greater than .08 percent, the legal limit in California. Fox was cited and released. Fox could possibly face six months in jail and a $1000 fine. Her arraignment is set for May 17. I’m sorry but it looks like Vivica can down some drinks. I wouldn’t think she would get in a car though and drive drunk. It seems like 50 did something to that girl I tell ya. Plastic surgery, driving drunk ….. wow. She was pretty before she did all that stuff to herself. I hope she gets it together.

Finally A Black Princess

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Disney has released pictures of their first black princess who is to hail for New OrleansFrench Quarter. The herione named Maddy will appear in an animated musical from Walt Disney called “The Frog Princess”. Highlights of the film include a “soulful singing alligator” and voodoo magic. Singer Alicia Keys has reportedly been lobbying hard to voice the lead character. the film will return to the classic hand-drawn animation process, instead of using computer animation that has become the industry standard. John Musker and Ron Clements who co-directed “The Little Mermaid“, “Aladdin“, and “Hercules” will co-direct the movie. The pair also wrote the story for the film, due for release in 2009. I’m so happy our little girls have a princess that looks like them.

Whitney Gets Custody Of Bobbi Christina

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An Orange County, CA judge recently ruled that Whitney Houston will get full custody of her daughter Bobbi Kristina. Her 14-year-old marriage to singer Bobby Brown will also end this month on the 24th as ruled by Superior Court Judge Franz E. Miller. Brown was a no-show at the hearing. Houston dadded her eyes with a tissue to hold back tears. She testified that she did not need spousal or child support and that 14-year-old Bobbi Kristina, could not depend on her father. “He’s unreliable,” Houston told Judge Miller. “If He says he’s going to come, sometimes he does. Usually he doesn’t.” Ram Cogan, the attorney representing Bobby Brown, said his client will seek to overturn the judge’s decicison. Houston declined to comment to reports after the hearing.

Tony Yayo Arrested For Punching 14-Year-Old

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Rapper Tony Yayo was arrested and detained in New York for the alleged assault of a 14-year-old boy. The victim is the son of Jimmy “Henchmen” Rosemond, the head of record label/management firm Czar Entertainment. The company handles the career of 50‘s rival The Game. Also, 50 and Rosemond have been on opposite sides of a court battle over the release of “The Infamous Time -Volume I: The Original 50 Cent “, a Czar-produced DVD about a deceased drug kingpin known in Brooklyn as the “original 50 Cent.” The alleged asasult took place last month after Rosemond’s son left school and was headed to his internship at his father’s offices on West 25th Street. the building is located near Violator Management, the company that handles 50 Cent’s career. Sources close to Czar told that 50 cent, Tony Yayo and several associates were leaving Violator Management and saw the boy walking down the street dressed in a Czar T-shirt. They reportedly had no idea that the teen was Rosemond’s son. According to sources, Yayo backhanded the boy then screamed profane words towards Czar Entertainment. Violator wasn’t available for comment on the charges, but sources within the company tell the web site that 50 was not present at the alleged assault. Yayo born Marvin Bernard, was reportedly taken to a precinct in downtown Manhattan along with his associates to be identified by the teen. The boy’s mother, Cynthia Reed, was to accompany her son to the station. She has released the following statement in response to the alleged assault:

“As a mother I am concerned that my son (who is a fan of hip hop) would be attacked by the same artist whose music he listens to. It’s a shame that 50 Cent and Tony Yayo could feel comfortable slapping and physically attacking an innocent 14-year-old minor that they market and promote their records to. this is a cowardly act on my son who has done nothing to warrant the verbal and physical abuse he received. this issue should not be taken lightly and these men should be looked upon as a serious threat to society, having taken their relentless public rants toward their rivals to a level of extreme. this should be looked at as a step away from child molestation. I seek justice in the form of restoring my son’s dignity and making sure any child can wear whatever they want without fear of bodily injury.”

Yayo’s rap sheet includes two consecutive sentences on weapons-possession sharges stemming from a December 2002 arrest and a sentence for jumping bail.

50 Cent Comments On Yayo Assault

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50 cent recently gave a comment to regarding the Yayo assault:

“As CEO of G-Unit Records, I take allegations swirling in the media regarding the alleged altercation against a teenage boy on Tuesday March 20 in Manhatten very seriously. I have autorized an independent investigation of the incident to determine whether anyone associated with G-Unit records was iinvolved in the confrontation. I must state for the record, that I was at my home in Farmington, Connecticut the entire day completing songs for my new album.”

50 continues ” A word of caution to anyone attempting to link me personally to this unfiortunate incident for their own selfish motivations, I will vigorously pursue all legal remedies available to me to protect my professional reputation.”

Rev. Sharpton Leads Yayo Protest In Manhattan

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A protest took place recently in Manhattan sparked by the Yayo assault. Rev Al Sharpton and others called for all sides to come together and hash out their differences peacefully. “I’m not here to take sides, I’m here to say that all sides are letting us down and need to come down to the table again and create a level of decency and respect for the communities that has been the basis of your wealth,” Sharpton said. “We put the ing in your bling bling (and) have no choice but then to try and (take) “the” ing out your bling bling by withdrawning our support commercially of your records and your use of airwaves.”

Czar executive Bryce Wilson was on hand at the protest, as were the boy’s mother Cynthia Reed, and New York City Councilman Charles Barron. Also in attendance were the ex-girlfriend and son of Israel Ramirez, who was gunned down while serving as a bodyguard for Busta Rhymes during a videl shoot last year in Brooklyn. Yayo, ironically was wanted for questioning in that case but has refused to cooperate with NYPD. Police belive the gunman who murdered Ramirez was with Yayo and that the G-Unit artist may have fled in the same vehicle as the suspect.

Cynthia Reed challenged various business partners of 50’s G-Unit like Marc Ecko, Vitamin Water, Adidas/Reebok, to speak out against Yayo’s actions or be faced with a boycott. Russell Simmons and Ben Chavis were schduled to be a the march but pulled out because they did not want to take sides on the situation. If this is true I think Tony Yayo needs his butt thrown in jail. What coward would pick on a 14-year-old kid. That is not gangta.

Top At the Box Office

1. Disturbia

2. Blades Of Glory

3. Meet The Robinsons

4. Perfect Stranger

5. Are We Done Yet?

Opening This Week

1. Fracture

2. In The Land Of Women

3. Vacancy

4. Hot Fuzz (Limited)

5. Smiley Face (Limited)

6. Stephanie Daley (Limited)

7. The Tripper (Limited)

8. The Valet (Limited)

Top On The Charts

R and B / Hip Hop Albums

1. B-Day- Beyonce

2. Get Money Stay True – Paul Wall

3. Timbaland Presents Shock Value – Timbaland

4. Buck The World – Young Buck

5. Now 24 -Various Artists

R And B / Hip Hop Singles

1. Lost Without You – Robin Thicke

2. Buddy – Musiq Soulchild

3. I’m A Flirt – R. Kelly Or Bow Wow

4. Buy U A Drank – T-Pain Featuring Yung Joc

5. Don’t Matter – Akon

Celebrity Birthdays

March 28th

Mr. Cheeks (Rapper-LostBoyz), 36

Ken L. (Actor), 34

March 29th

MC Hammer (Rapper/Minister), 45

March 30th

Tracy Chapman (Singer), 43

March 31st

Herb Alpert (Musician), 72

April 1st

Rudolph Isley (Singer-The Isley Brothers), 68

Jimmy Cliff (Reggae Singer), 59

Gil Scott-Heron (Jazz Keyboardist), 58

Method Man (Rapper/Actor), 36

Albert and Allen Hughes (Filmmakers), 35

April 2nd

Leon Russell (Actor), 65

April 3rd

Eddie Murphy (Actor/Comedian/Singer), 46

April 4th

Maya Angelou (Aurthor/Poet), 79

Hugh Nasekela ((Bandleader), 68

Jill Scott (Singer), 35

Kelly Price (Singer), 34

Andre Dalyrimple (Singer-Soul For Real), 33

April 5th

Pharrell Williams (Rapper/Producer), 34

Colin Powell(Former U.S. Secretary Of State), 70

April 6th

Billy Dee Williams (Actor), 70

April 7th

Mark Kibble (Singer-Take 6), 43

Bill Bellamy (Actor/Comedian), 42

April 8th

Biz Markie (Rapper), 43

April 9th

Keisha Knight Pulliam (Actress), 28

April 10th

Bobbie Smith (Singer-The Spinners), 71

Bunny Wailer (Raggae Artist), 60

Babyface (Singer/Producer), 49

Afrika Bambaataa (Rapper), 47

Orlando Jones (Actor/Comedian), 39

Kenny Lattimore (Singer), 37

Q-Tip (Rapper/Actor), 37

Shemekia Copeland (Blues Singer), 28

April 11th

Meshach Taylor (Actor), 60

Lisa Stansfield (Singer), 41

Joss Stone (Singer), 20

April 12th

Herbie Hancock (Singer), 67

J.D. Nicholas (Singer-Commodores), 55

Suzzanne Douglas (Actress), 50

April 13th

Al Green (Singer), 61

April 14th

Da Brat (Rapper), 33

April 15th

Evelyn Ashford (Track Star), 50

Flex Alexander (Actor), 37

April 16th

Martin Lawrence (Actor/Comedian), 42

Kareem Abdul-Jabbar (Ex-Basketball Player), 60

April 17th

Lila Rochon (Actress), 43

Kimberly Elise (Actress), 40

Redman (Rapper), 37

Dee Dee Davis (Actress- The Bernie Mac Show), 11

April 18th

Trina (Singer- Trina And Tamara), 33

America Ferrera (Actress), 23

April 19th

Suge Knight (Hip Hop Mogul), 42

April 20th

Shemar Moore (Actor), 37

Allan Houston (NBA Star), 36

April 21st

Michael Franti (Rapper-Spearhead), 41

April 22nd

Byron Allen (Talk Host/Comedian), 46

Mumia Abdul Jamal
(Journalist/Novelist), 53

Narada Michael Walden (Producer), 55

April 24th

Djimon Hounsou (Actor), 43

Cedric the Entertainer (Actor/Comedian), 43

Kevin Powell (Writer/Author/Poet/Real World Star), 41

Derek Luke (Actor), 33

Reagan Gomez-Preston (Actress), 27

April 25th

Gina Torres (Actress), 38

Keep The Peace,

Soul Star

When Tragedy Strikes

Troubling times causes us to look to God and ask, “Why?”

Why did a man, who was laid off on a Thursday, go back to his former job in Troy, Michigan on the folllowing Monday and shoot three people, killing one?

Why did the Virginia Tech student go on a shooting rampage Monday morning and kill 32 people before killing himself?

When tragedy strikes, we ask God “Why?” and “How could YOU let this happen?” The God we serve is good and only wants the best for us. We put the blame on the wrong person, we take out our frustrations on One who had absolutely nothing to do with murder, crime, poverty, etc.

The Bible says his about Satan (John 10:10):

The thief (Satan) comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I (Jesus) have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.

So many people are living outside the will of God and this allows Satan full access to cause such terrible things to happen. Let us keep our focus on God and stand firm against evil.

The Ladies of Pumps and Gloss send our thoughts and prayers to those who have gone on to Glory and to their families and friends: Virgina Tech and the Troy, Michigan Shooting.

May the Lord comfort our broken hearts,

Joyful Radiance

I’d Rather Be at Home With Ray!

As I have mentioned before, I love British Soul and RnB music. There are many artists to choose from i.e. Terri Walker (Princess of UK RnB), Corinne Bailey Rae (easy breezy Soul), James Morrison (bluesy Soul), Amy Winehouse (Good, raw Soul), Mica Paris (has done a duet with Will Downing, one of my favorite singers) Keisha White et al.

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Add Lemar to that list.

I like to peruse iTunes UK store and check out music that is not available in the US. I noticed Lemar, and checked out his latest record, “The Truth About Love.” Oh, how his voice sounds mellifluous. (Sidebar: I believe I heard him on BBC 1Xtra special in early 2006. I found Corinne Bailey Rae on that special, where Terri Walker was the headliner act.) This dude is the real deal. His voice is reminiscent to classic artists like Teddy Pendergrass, Sam Cooke, Curtis Mayfield, and Beres Hammond (Reggae sensation.)

He was born in the England to Nigerian parents. Growing up, like the other UK singers, he had hearty helping of Soul, R&B , and Gospel music. In 2002, he appeared on Fame Academy. The show is similar to Pop Idol and American Idol, but contestants vote each other off, instead of a viewing audience. He did not win the Fame Academy, but he still received a record contract after doing singing a duet with Beverley Knight (She has sung duets, with such artists as Musiq SoulChild and Wyclef Jean.) (Thank goodness for BBC America!)

Lemar has been quite successful in the UK and has won a ton of awards, including 2 BRIT Awards, which are comparable to Grammy Awards.

I hope that he can bring his talents to the United States, even if he is doing a musical on Broadway and/or one of his songs is played in a scene of hugely popular America television drama (fill in your own blank.)

Side note: If you have not picked up a copy of Musiq Soulchild’s “Luvanmusiq”, you need to be ashamed of yourself. 🙂 This is one of the best records in 2007.

There is a lot of GOOD, QUALITY music out there, sometimes you have to search for it.

Mix Maven

When Really Bad Dancing Happens to OK People

I love Oprah’s show. She uplifts people, and gives them hope. At my church we sing a song that says, “we have this hope that burns within our hearts…” I tell you every time we sing that song, I mist up. Hope is great. You know what I hope for, the sight of middle-aged white people dancing on television will decrease. (Not that Oprah has rhythm either!) Choreographer Tweetie, bless her heart, had to teach some of those people how to do the Old Man and the Snap Dance. Tweetie was very patient, and hope that by doing the dance lesson for Dame O, her career will move into the stratosphere. One thing I know for sure, there will several stars in Tweetie’s crown.

Choreographer Tweetie and the Misfits (Well, not all of them)

I love Kelly Ripa. She is hip and cool. If you watch “Live with Regis and Kelly”, you know she likes to say “holla” and “Where Brooklyn at” often. She is hilarity and hi-jinx. I think she could teach Dame O how to do the Chicken Noodle Soup.

If you are going to dance in public, please practice, practice, practice or you will show up on the Internets, which I learned is a series of tubes. Tom Brady, I love you, but uhm noo!!

Looks like someone is droppin’ like it is lukewarm.

5, 6, 7, 8

On the Beat,

Mix Maven

The Right Look

Hey Ladies,

Mix Maven and Joyful Radiance here for the vacationing Sensual Element and Kool Kitty. Today, we are going to talk about how to rock the right lingerie look for our body types when creating that romantic vibe. Let’s get in to it….

Bosom not as perky as they once were? We recommend wearing lingerie that has underwire cups for support or a stretch lace top that will hold the “girls” in place.

Underwire Babydoll - Source: Victoria’s Secret

Do you want to hide stretch marks? We recommend wearing lingerie that is not sheer to cover those areas in a flattering way.

La Perla

Don’t like your legs? Wear a long gown or pair your lingerie with some tall boots.

Lace-cup silk gown - Source: Victoria’s Secret

Think your stomach is too big? Try a corset for that lean waist look or a baby doll piece that flows in a flattering A-Line shape.

Goddess Serena full-coverage corset - Source: Lane Bryant

Ultimately, in order to have great sex, we, ladies, must be free with our bodies. If we allow our minds to be burdened by our body flaws, we will not have the mind blowing orgasm that Sensual Element eloquently teaches from week to week. We must learn to love and appreciate our bodies.

Be Not Stressed While Undressed,

Mix Maven and Joyful Radiance


The boyfriend that did not love you enough. The job that did not appreciate your hard work. The family that did not support you. The friends who turned their backs on you. The loved one who passed on to Glory who you miss dearly.

People like to say that time heals all wounds, but in truth, some wounds never heal. Some things are too hard to get over. How do we cope and move forward?

1. Seek God’s comfort – May your unfailing love be my comfort… Psalm 119:76

2. Mourn – Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. Matthew 5:4

3. After Mourning, Be Optimistic – Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Philippians 4:8

4. Seek Support from People Who Love You – Therefore encourage one another and build each other up…I Thessalonians 5:11

The Ladies of Pumps and Gloss pray for your strength during trying times! The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. Psalm 34:18

Joyful Radiance