Date Night FOTD

Pumps and Glossers,

The first Face of the Day (well actually Night) on this blog…woohoo let’s have a party! (Ok, maybe not!) 🙂

Mr. Maven and I decided this week was a great week to resume date night (6-week hiatus). Since we both work from home, we wanted to make sure that we leave the house a few times of week  for the purpose is not related to getting the essentials (including cosmetics.) 😉

We did the dinner-movie combo. The Mavens had a grand ole time.  We went to see Hancock.  I love a good action film (more kick assery-less chatter)!! The movie had a little bit of both.  If there is a Hancock 2, I want to see less chatter.. LOL  I loved the scene where Jason Bateman’s character, “Ray”, showed Hancock some clips of him crime fighting on YouTube.  Hancock’s clothes were burned from saving residents from an apartment fire.  The buttocks exposed were definitely looking really good! *Bagel Buns (Yum-oh!!)* 🙂

Makeup Chatter

I do not really plan looks, but since I have been haulin’ lately, I decided to at least use MAC Black Ore Solar Bits some kind of way.  I love Black Ore Solar Bits and I went to minor lengths to get it after being sold out online and in my area.

The products that I used:  (All products MAC unless noted)

Face

  • Monistat Soothing Care Chafing Relief Powder-Gel,
  • NC 50/NW 43 Studio Tech Foundations,
  • NYX Concealer in Nutmeg,

Eyes

  • Matte Gel
  • Indianwood Paint Pot
  • Hard Candy Disco 2000 #2 e/s
  • Amber Lights e/s
  • Too Faced Shooting Star Glam e/s
  • Black Ore Solar Bits
  • Hard Candy Fringe #2
  • Tempting e/s
  • LA Colors Mascara Soft Black
  • NYX Black Felt Pen Liner

Cheek

Margin Blush

Lips

Pucker Tendertone

Mix Maven FOTN 7-10-2008

Mix Maven FOTN 7-10-2008

Mix Maven FOTN 7-10-2008 #2

Mix Maven FOTN 7-10-2008 #2

Have a super weekend!!

Mix Maven

Have Fun With A Condom

I know some people out there do not like condoms. I was on the Pill for the longest and my libido was lower than I liked. When I stopped using the Pill, and started using condoms on a regular basis, I was back to the Sexual Carob that I know and love.  Mr. Carob & I do not believe in the “condom-breaking” scenario that some cry about. If you know how to put a condom on, the likelihood of breaking or bursting is minimal.
Here are some fun tips from Cosmo:

How To Make Condoms More Fun

No need to bust out silly party tricks! Thanks to Cosmo’s genius tips, wearing protection will be so pleasurable, your man won’t ever bitch and moan about it again.

Check out Cosmo's genius condom tips! Wearing protection will be so pleasurable...Making condoms sound playful is easy (love glove, woody hoodie, peter parka…). But coming up with cutesy names isn’t enough to get a guy to like wearing one, despite the fact that they ward off unwanted pregnancies and STDs. Lucky for you, Cosmo has found ways to maximize pleasure while using protection. “It’s as simple as choosing the right rubber, making him feel at ease, and keeping the intensity high throughout the act,” says sexologist Yvonne K. Fulbright, PhD, author of Sex With Your Ex. When you do all three, “he won’t have the usual anxiety about losing his erection or not being able to climax.” What’s more, you’ll be able to milk more sensations out of safe sex too. We’re sharing it all right here.

Shopping Tips

Most people spend all of seven seconds choosing a condom, according to data from Trojan. But a last-minute dash to the drugstore can mean less satisfaction in the sack. Below, we explain how to pick a winner.

Size matters. The right fit completely changes how a guy experiences sex with a condom. One that’s too tight reduces sensation, takes longer to get on (which can deflate his erection), and is more likely to break. Quick sizing test: If you can’t roll the raincoat all the way down to the base of his penis, it’s not large enough. That said, an oversize one can slip off, and the extra material can make your dude feel inadequate.

Though the standard size of condoms is about 7 inches long, the length can vary up to an inch and girth sizes also range, so experiment with brands and styles (sites like list size categories).

Try a condom designed with a swirl or bulb at the end of it — it’ll say so on the box, usually with a word like twist or pleasure or spiral. These models fit securely around the base of his shaft while creating more friction near the nerve-packed head of his penis.

Consider a polyurethane prophylactic. Unlike latex, they transmit body heat, making intercourse feel more sensual. If you and your guy are committed and STD-free, try a lambskin condom. These also transmit heat, and many men swear this type feels more like skin on skin. But they only protect against pregnancy, since the natural, porous material can allow the transmission of STDs.

Let’s Get It On

Rolling one on doesn’t have to ruin the mood.

The faster you can slip on a safety sheath, the less likely he is to go limp. Minimize fumbling by opening the wrapper during foreplay. Pull the condom out, and place two drops of lube inside. This increases sensation at the supersensitive head of his penis. Place the opening over the top of his shaft. Hold it there with one hand, lightly squeeze the tip of the condom, and use the other hand to unravel it all the way down to the base of his member.

For a treat, use your mouth. Dab your lips with lube, then lightly suck the (nonspermicidal!) disc into your mouth with the nipple end inward. (Grossed out? Try a flavored love glove.) Carefully wrap your lips over your teeth and put your mouth at the head of his member. Push your lips against the ring of the condom, slide it down his shaft, and unroll the rest with your hand. Ta-da!

Pleasure-Maxing Moves

A condom needn’t come between you, him, and a climax.

Squeeze your legs together in missionary or doggie-style to create extra pressure.

Make a V with your pointer and middle fingers, then place it between your legs. Press it against the base of his penis as he thrusts. This gives him more stimulation where the condom is tightest (i.e., most numbing).

Buy a vibrating ring — Trojan, Durex, and LifeStyles sell them. It’s a plastic band attached to a buzzing nub. Place the band around the base of the condom, with the nub facing your clitoris, and enjoy the pulsating ride.

Find this article at: http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/sex/How-to-Make-Condoms-More-Fun

Have Fun,

Sexual Carob

Happy Valentine’s Day

Hey Pumps and Gloss-ers,

Wishing you a happy and fun Valentine’s Day.

Happy Valentine’s Day

The greatest thing you’ll ever learn
Is to love and be loved in return.
~ From “Unforgettable with Love” by Natalie Cole

Enjoy some favorite love songs:

Musiq SoulChild “Teachme”

Musiq SoulChild “Lullaby”

India Arie featuring John Legend “Brown Skin”

George Michael “I Want Your Sex”

George Michael and the Queen “I Knew You Were Waiting for Me.”

 

For Richer or For Poorer

Hey Pumps and Gloss-ers,

Wedding season is approaching very quickly. Many brides are finalizing reception, floral arrangements, and other related wedding activities.

I have discussed many aspects of wedding attire and accessories, but not the actual wedding/reception party planning.

Wedding Reception

We all know that weddings/receptions can be expensive. If possible, your best bet is to begin the planning process early. Please bare in mind that the actual wedding is not as costly as the reception. You can probably get away with faux flowers and tulle on the pews and a few flowers, columns, and so forth on the rostrum.

The reception is probably 60-80% of the budget, assuming that all of the bridal party will be paying out of their own pockets, which is pretty much standard, unless you are aware of financial hardship with a couple of bridal participants. Here is Mix Maven’s rule of thumb, “If you cannot afford the reception, you need to keep the wedding invites to a minimum.” Opt for a destination ceremony that will limit who can come to the wedding, which, ultimately, means less money flowing out of your pocket.

Preston Bailey’s Sandals Destination Wedding

I must stress that you cannot have a caviar and saltfish reception. You must either keep the reception elegant or decide on a casual event. Do not mix the two. A friend of mine was telling me about a wedding that the friend was planning with the bride. The bride asked the friend to help because she likes my friend’s taste, which is quite impeccable. The friend told me how the bride wanted to use plastic or paper plates for dining *gasp* as well as setting up a lobby for the reception. *double gasp*!!! To add insult to injury, the bride and groom wanted to serve a specific ethnic menu to all guests, but the menu would cater to 25% of guests. Why? Because the menu was the cheapest. Now, the best solution would be to cater to both sets, negotiating rates that will be conducive to their budget. (Sidebar: if you have a significant amount of guests that are vegetarian, do not relegate them to eating cheese and pasta. Make sure that substantive food i.e. protein is provided for them.)

Spring Rolls - Source: MarthaStewart.com

I am not saying that you should not find bargains, but be careful of where you decide to cut costs. I am a bargain shopper, but I know that you get what you pay for. Do not cut costs on food. If you cannot afford to feed people good food, DO NOT have a reception. I heard about a bride wanting to have a potluck for her wedding reception, thankfully, a relative stepped in and helped to make sure the event was catered.

Do not treat guests with disdain by providing them substandard fair, yet still wanting gifts from them . Elegance does not have to be butchered, if your budget is not the amount you want it to be, be open to creative affordable options that will still add the touch of elegance you desire. You, your spouse, family and guests are definitely worth it! Always REMEMBER, Your wedding day is a reflection of you and your new spouse, so make sure the look you want is cohesive and charming.

Keep It Classy,

Mix Maven

Top 5 Lingerie

As we get to the end of 2007, I am taking out the time to give the top 5 choices of Christmas lingerie I saw in Fredrick’s of Hollywood.  I will admit trying to determine which ranking these lingerie pieces would receive. 

At number 5:

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I love the look and but if you are top heavy you may not be able to find your size.  So we just gaze at this one from the window.

at number 4:

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This is a wonderful piece for those role playing games and the Mr. wants to see his Mrs. Santa Claus strut around the bedroom.  The whole ensemble is lovely and I just love the hat.

at number 3:

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This is just sexy and there’s not much more to say about this lingerie piece.

at number 2:

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There’s something about long splits that I just love.  The split on a skirt or dress can drive your man ready to pull it off your body.  

And our sexy lingerie is…….

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This lingerie piece gives you the role of Mrs. Claus for playing and the sexiness we all want to maintain.   

I told you these choices were hard.  I loved all of the lingerie pieces and as I look at them over and over, I would move them up and down on my list.

Have a Sensual Weekend

Sensual Element 

A Few of My Favorite…….

Happy Holidays (Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah and Happy Kwanzaa) to all.

This writer’s strike is really bothering me. I am missing Conan O’Brien, The Daily Show and The Colbert Report. If there were not other important things going on in my life, I would have no reason to exist. I hope both parties can come to a suitable agreement, so I can see my men live on the TV once again.

My top 5 favorites shows are (not in any specific order) that I have never discussed on Pumps and Gloss before:

  1. Eureka on the SciFi Network – Mr. Maven turned me on to this show as he is a sci-fi fan, but not in a weird/nerdy way. The show is about a sheriff who moves to a town where all the residents are geniuses. One of the major employers of the town is Global Dynamic where scientists work on high-level, top secret assignments for the Department of Defense. The show has a nice mix of romance, science and mayhem, which I totally love. The ensemble cast includes Salli Richardson, Joe Morton, and Colin Ferguson.Eureka - SciFi Network
  2. The Nanny -I love this show. When the show first aired, I was a freshman in college. At the time, I liked how Nanny Fine dressed because I, too, loved the short skirts and wore them as often as I could. The show is a classic just like “I Love Lucy.”The Nanny - Source:Amazo.com
  3. I am not a huge animated fan, but I love “The Boondocks.” This sharply written animated show is definitely NOT for the kids. The show is based on the cartoon strip of the same name. The strip contained a biting critique of popular and political culture in the United States. My favorite episodes include Gangstalicious, a rapper who gets shot and kisses a fellow male rapper. I am still trying to figure out who he is supposed to represent.The Boondocks - Cartoon Network
  4. Chuck is a new show on NBC prime time. We missed a few episodes in the beginning. Thankfully, we were able to catch on easily to the show. “Chuck” is a show about 20-something techy nerd, who accidentally downloads NSA and CIA information into his brain. Chuck works at BuyMore as a tech support that works in the Nerd Herd (i.e. Geek Squad.) He works undercover for the government and each week battles, along with his spy handlers, terrorists and other evil-doers. Chuck - NBC.com
  5. Las Vegas is worth watching for Josh Duhamel alone. He is definitely fine!! I liked the kick-a$$ nature of the show, until James Caan decided to leave the show, I am sure for valid reasons. The new addition of Tom Selleck as casino owner is a, somewhat, dull . Would have been super nice, if Mike got the President of Operations job, considering he has a degree from MIT. Still I enjoy the show, but I waiting for an increase in kick assery.Las Vegas - NBC.com

What are some of your favorite television shows?

Decking the Halls with Boughs of Holly,

Mix Maven

KISSING

Source: http://www.kissing.com/lecture.html for William Cane

As I was driving to work earlier this week, I was listening to the radio and the topic was “The Art of Kissing.” I was thinking, wow this is a great subject for Friday. As I really started thinking, how does one perfect their kissing? I know I love a good kiss probably like anyone else reading this. Kissing can really stir up some emotions if the other person is great at kissing. I don’t know about anyone else but I have had some kisses that left me saying DAYUMMMMMMM.

I noticed there are plenty of books and video about the art of kissing, however, the station was discussing a book by William Cane and how he describes the art of kissing. When I went to the website http://www.kissing.com/lecture.html I was shocked to see that Mr. Cane makes appearances to colleges and universities.

Some of the topics covered by Mr. Cane topics covered include the psychology of kissing, how to avoid kissing diseases, and methods of making yourself more kissable in the eyes of the opposite sex. He also delights you with tips for more intimate kisses, advice on where men and women like to be kissed best (based on the first Internet kissing survey in history), bizarre kissing customs from around the world, the newest fads in French kissing, and point by point instructions for today’s trendiest kisses, including:

  the upside-down kiss
  the lip-o-suction kiss
  the vacuum kiss
  the music kiss, and
  the Trobriand Islands kiss.

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The Art of Kissing, (St. Martin’s Press, revised edition 1995). Since the initial publication of his comprehensive kisser’s manual, The Art of Kissing, author William Cane has received thousands of phone calls, letters, and e-mails from readers with questions, concerns, and comments about their kissing techniques. In this revised edition of an international classic (now published in nineteen countries and seventeen languages), he shares their insights, responds to their questions, and calms their kissing qualms with more of the lip-smacking wisdom his fans have been waiting for. New topics include:

The kinds of kisses men and women like most (and least!) according to the results of the world’s first Internet kissing survey.

How to overcome your kissing shyness and kissing anxieties?

More lips-on instruction and wisdom from real kissers on how to perfect the first kiss, the eye kiss, the nose kiss, the neck kiss, the public kiss, and the wet kiss, as well as complete instructions for all-new kisses, including the butterfly kiss, the friendly kiss, and the lip-o-suction kiss.

I know I want to see which kisses were the worst and best. I can imagine sloppy kisses or those wet kisses where the person leaves your face wet (like you need a face washing or something). The book seems to be a pretty good buy. I am going to have to purchase the book and let everyone know what I really think of his publication. The radio personality was raving about the book. If anyone has read this book please leave a comment and let us know what you think about the “Art of Kissing” by William Cane. Also did it enhance your kissing abilities?

Kiss away my Glossy Ones!!

Sensual Element

Sport and the Lady

Happy Wednesday Pumps and Gloss-ers,

I am very excited about the Red Sox World Series win. Mr. Maven and I used to live in the Greater Boston area and we like to think that our presence in the region helped to turn the Red Sox and Patriots into winning organizations. Boo hiss to the Celtics and Bruins. My local teams are far superior to them.

I found this cute picture of future Boston Red Sox fans on Boston.com

New Red Sox Fans

New Englanders are very passionate about their sports’ teams, which means the ladies must be just as attentive to sports as the men.

I was out with my friend, LH, on a Sunday. Her fiance called in to check in with her, during his weekly football game. [That is love 😉 ] So she was resigned to the fact that her honey will be unavailable for 16 weeks plus playoffs and Super Bowl. Actually, the games are scheduled for 17 weeks (34 days including Monday Night Football and some Thursday nights) and all teams get a bye (rest) week. Thank goodness he is not into the NBA because the post-season is about 3 months. Saying all this, ladies, you must join in the action, every now and again.

Mr. Maven is fortunate that I like sports, I do not watch often because of various factors, but I enjoy keeping up with my fave teams.

Here are some tips for learning sports:

1. Watch Pardon The Interruption on ESPN. This show is one of the funniest shows on the TV. Tony Kornheiser and Mike Wilbon are Washington-based writers that decided they needed to be on television. They also discuss popular culture topics i.e. American Idol and other popular shows.

Tony Kornheiser & Mike Wilbon - Espn.com

2. Find a cute player on the team to cheer for. One of my favorites is Tom Brady. He is definitely yummilicious. I have followed his career from his time at Michigan to the New England Patriots. In football, it is helpful to check out the buttocks. Now, if your man likes hockey, the players do not look good on ice, but they clean up well.

Tom Brady

3. Read books about the sport. Some of my friends recommend:

Get Your Own Darn* Beer, I’m Watching the Game!: A Woman’s Guide to Loving Pro Football by Holly Robinson Peete

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4. Try to limit questions during the game. Take notes and ask your hubby on Tuesday. He will be pleased and will do chores around the house without being prompted.

5. See Tip 1. One cannot get enough of ESPN.

I hope these tips will help you learn more about sports and enjoy with your spouse or significant other.

Have Fun,

Mix Maven

Everything I Am

Happy Wednesday,

I realize that all artistic geniuses are troubled, which explains Kanye’s frequent rants and why sonme artists consider suicide as cure all for personal angst. (Mental illness should no longer be ignored!)

Saying all that, Kanye West was a good sport for doing the skits on Saturday Night Live of his obnoxious ranting and raving. The best quote of the skit, Kanye storms the podium lambasting the children for voting for “Drake and Josh.” He screams, “how’s kids gonna get taken seriously, if they keep making bad choices. I used to believe the children were our future, but f*** that!” Too funny!!!

You all need to cop [if you have not done so already] (are people still saying cop), “Graduation”. Kanye’s sound is not formulaic compared to other mainstream rappers, he fuses hip hop and reggae, alternative sounds even has Chris Martin of ColdPlay singing the hook to one of his songs. I enjoy this album, the current standouts are “Champion”, “Good Life” with T-Pain, the MJ sample of “PYT”, which the Ladies of P&G are certified members of this exclusive club, “Everything I Am,” a heartfelt anthem about being different in the rap game, and the heart wrenching, “Bittersweet Poetry,” which features the vocal stylings of John Mayer. (The first time I heard this song, I did not realize JM was on the track.) This angst-laden song laments a complicated love affair. Mayer croons, “I don’t want you, but I need you/I love you and hate you at the very same time.”

Can’t Tell Me Nothing

Good Life

Bittersweet Poetry

Joyful Radiance, not an avid SNL viewer, decided to watch the season premiere. Her favorite parody of the night was “High School Musical 3: Return of the Seniors.” She told me that she fell off her sofa when she heard LeBron sing, “On second thought/ I think I’ll stick around/Play a little ball/And have sex with your girlfriend.” She does not want anyone to know that she will be watching more often. 😉 That is our little secret. (Shhhh)

Have an awesome week

Mix Maven

P.S.

Sexual Carob has recommend some “toys” for me to try. Will report when I return from my anniversary excursion.

Reminder – Pumps & Gloss Giveaway

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Be Blessed,

Ladies of Pumps and Gloss