I Love Randy Jackson’s Presents America’s Best Dance Crew

Randy Jackson\'s Presents America\'s Best Dance Crew

I love watching MTV’s (me watching is a rarity these days) Randy Jackson Presents American’s Best Dance Crew (Dang that is a long A$$ name 😉 . (Sidebar: this is the only competition show I watch… No Idol, no America’s Got Talent, No So You Think You Can Dance et al.) As of now, I do not have any favorite dance crews, but I am not feeling Fanny Pak.  I do think SoReal Cru is pretty good and the Detroit Crew was also good (yay for the deaf dancer.)  I am looking forward to the rest of the 2nd season.

ASSID, Detroit Dance Crew

SoReal Cru, Houston Dance Crew

Fanny Pak, LA Dance Crew

I enjoyed hearing the heartfelt back stories of the dancers and the crews.  I wish all of them best and I hope they can parlay this show into something very successful.

Which dance crew is your fave?

Parents, You Need An Intervention!

Last year I did a post entitled, Counting Up The Cost. The post was about how parents are buying their children expensive, luxury brands. Now, I stumble on another article about how parents are spending tens and thousands of dollars on kiddie birthday parties. America, we need a parent intervention!!

The problem did not start with MTV’s “My Super Sweet 16,” but I am sure that the show contributes to the excessiveness of parents and children. The CNN article highlighted a mother who spent $5,000 USD for a 3 year old toddler’s birthday party. The party had expensive favors, lavish entertainment, a four-layer cake. (That sounds like a wedding reception to me!)

Cake with bow

Another family spent $10 million on a bat mizpah. According to the CNN article, “former defense contractor David H. Brooks of Long Island reportedly spent in 2005 on his daughter’s bat mitzvah. That soirée, at the storied Rainbow Room in Rockefeller Center, featured 50 Cent, Don Henley and Aerosmith, among others.” (Sidebar: please note his career choice!!)

Above picture is a Coachâ„¢ – themed cake for a birthday party. This cake runs about $1500. I know many brides who spent less on their wedding cakes.

What kind of values are we passing on to our children, when we spend lavishly on a birthday party? To be honest, I do not think most of the parents have the money to spend on these parties, but they want to look like good parents by giving their children the “best” of everything.

I feel like children today do not have anything to look forward to in life. Parents shower them with expensive everything and when they get older, they will try to maintain the lifestyle and realize they cannot. At some point, these excessive acts must end. Parents have to realize that affection, love and care cannot be bought.

We are destroying our children by giving into their every whim or creating these whims. Parents need more backbone and learn how to say no. I tell you my parents had no problems telling my sibling and I “NO!!” on a regular basis. I do not even know how I would live in the world, if my parents spoiled me.

I believe the children are the future. Teach them well and let the lead the way. BUT we cannot do so if parents do not have any self-control.

Let us move up a little higher,

Mix Maven

For Richer or For Poorer

Hey Pumps and Gloss-ers,

Wedding season is approaching very quickly. Many brides are finalizing reception, floral arrangements, and other related wedding activities.

I have discussed many aspects of wedding attire and accessories, but not the actual wedding/reception party planning.

Wedding Reception

We all know that weddings/receptions can be expensive. If possible, your best bet is to begin the planning process early. Please bare in mind that the actual wedding is not as costly as the reception. You can probably get away with faux flowers and tulle on the pews and a few flowers, columns, and so forth on the rostrum.

The reception is probably 60-80% of the budget, assuming that all of the bridal party will be paying out of their own pockets, which is pretty much standard, unless you are aware of financial hardship with a couple of bridal participants. Here is Mix Maven’s rule of thumb, “If you cannot afford the reception, you need to keep the wedding invites to a minimum.” Opt for a destination ceremony that will limit who can come to the wedding, which, ultimately, means less money flowing out of your pocket.

Preston Bailey’s Sandals Destination Wedding

I must stress that you cannot have a caviar and saltfish reception. You must either keep the reception elegant or decide on a casual event. Do not mix the two. A friend of mine was telling me about a wedding that the friend was planning with the bride. The bride asked the friend to help because she likes my friend’s taste, which is quite impeccable. The friend told me how the bride wanted to use plastic or paper plates for dining *gasp* as well as setting up a lobby for the reception. *double gasp*!!! To add insult to injury, the bride and groom wanted to serve a specific ethnic menu to all guests, but the menu would cater to 25% of guests. Why? Because the menu was the cheapest. Now, the best solution would be to cater to both sets, negotiating rates that will be conducive to their budget. (Sidebar: if you have a significant amount of guests that are vegetarian, do not relegate them to eating cheese and pasta. Make sure that substantive food i.e. protein is provided for them.)

Spring Rolls - Source: MarthaStewart.com

I am not saying that you should not find bargains, but be careful of where you decide to cut costs. I am a bargain shopper, but I know that you get what you pay for. Do not cut costs on food. If you cannot afford to feed people good food, DO NOT have a reception. I heard about a bride wanting to have a potluck for her wedding reception, thankfully, a relative stepped in and helped to make sure the event was catered.

Do not treat guests with disdain by providing them substandard fair, yet still wanting gifts from them . Elegance does not have to be butchered, if your budget is not the amount you want it to be, be open to creative affordable options that will still add the touch of elegance you desire. You, your spouse, family and guests are definitely worth it! Always REMEMBER, Your wedding day is a reflection of you and your new spouse, so make sure the look you want is cohesive and charming.

Keep It Classy,

Mix Maven

Musical Three-On-Three

Hey Glossy Ones,

Today, since three is my favorite number, I will be sharing my three favorite things related to music in three different categories. Let’s go!

Three Fave Party Songs

Last week, Mix Maven did a post about fab dresses for holiday parties. Here are my three favorite party songs in no particular order:

I am not a Jagged Edge fan (I know, I know), but this is the only song by them that I love. Featuring Nelly, here is Where The Party At.”

Koffee Brown didn’t get the play they deserved! Great CD and After Party will always be a fave of mine…and the guy in the group is fine!

A MJB classic – Family Affair.”

Honorable Mention: “Party Up (Up In Here)” by DMX and “Booty Call – Pirate Remix” by Blackstreet (“Ain’t no call like a booty call, cause a booty call just don’t stop!”). I could go there with Perculator! LOL!

Three Fave Kissing Songs

Sensual Element did a post about kissing last week. Here are my fave songs related to kissing!

“Don’t matter who knows/I don’t care who sees/Me thinking about you makes my life complete” – Gotta take you back with Total’s Kissing You.”

I couldn’t find the video for Kissing You by Faith Evans (from the Waiting to Exhale soundtrack), but I found this really cute version. 🙂

“I liiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiike the waaaaaaaaaaaaay…” Couldn’t leave out I Like The Way (Kissing Game) by Hi-Five.

Honorable Mention: “Kiss” by Prince and “Kiss Kiss” by Chris Brown with T-Pain.

Three Fave Songs featuring Snoop D-O-Double Gizzle

I think all three of us at P&G could do three different Friday posts about this song! LOL! I love to turn it up in the car and my hubby is ’bout sick of me singing it around the house. Snoop Dogg does the Roger Troutman onSensual Seduction.” This is definitely my jam at the moment. Click HERE to hear the unedited version, Sexual Eruption.

Ok, my FAVE part of this song is the start of Snoop’s second verse, starting at minute 3:01:

“It’s the capital S/Oh yes, I’m Fresh/n-double o-p/D-o-double g-y/D-o-doube G you see”

Takes me back every time. Here is Dr. Dre’s Nuthin but a G Thang (Baby!).

The beat to this song BANGS! Here’s Chuuuch to Da Palace.” Cute video concept.

Honorable Mention: Drop It Like It’s Hot, ANYTHING from his first cd, and the one Snoop did with Timberland, can’t remember the name of it, but the hook went something like, “Who’s that dippin in the Cadiallac?/Snooooop Dogg.”

Ok, that’s my Three-On-Three for today. Hope you all have a great week!

~Joy

Party All The Time

Hey Pumps And Gloss-y Ones,

As many of you know, Mix Maven loves the shimmer and glimmer, which is one of the reasons why I love the Holiday season. Many of us will have many shindigs to attend, which means we have to be looking good. (Please make sure to acquire appropriate attire for your parties. For example, if you are going to a formal church banquet, no one should have to accidentally see the crack of your buttocks.)

I like J. Crew and I think this store is a good place to find classic, tasteful looks for any occasion.

I found this wonderful dress in the clearance section of the website. The empire waist is flattering on most figures. Pair with chunky pearl necklace or white gold or sterling silver with a solitaire pendant.

JCrew Sophia Silk Dress in Deep Forest

I like this dress. This J. Crew Silk Taffeta Dress in Charcoal is for ladies that are not too busty. (If you are busty, back away from this dress right now!!) What about pairing this dress with blue or olive leather opera gloves for a pop of color?

JCrew Charcoal Silk Taffeta Ballerina Dress

Carolina Amato Gloves Blue - Source: Eluxury.comCarolina Amato Gloves Olive - Source: Eluxury.com

I am totally in love with the Black Betsey Johnson and Kelly Green Maggy London shift dresses. The sequins brighten up the Betsey Johnson dress. Most, if not all, body types would look great in this style of dress.

Betsey Johnson Paillette Trim Silk Shift - Source: Nordstrom.com

I adore the layered box pleated-collar because it creates visual interest to an otherwise plain dress. The silk chiffon is glorious and looks chic and comfortable. This dress is also figure flattering and great for the petite ladies who are a few months pregnant.

Maggy London Silk Chiffon - Source: Nordstrom.com

If you get bored with all the carols and other holiday songs at the soirée, ask the DJ to play “Dumb it Down” by Lupe Fiasco …. great message in the song!!

My new favorite song!!

Tis The Season to be Jolly,

Mix Maven