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Glossy Monday Variety

Hey Glossy Ones,

Hope you all had a great weekend!

MONDAY MELODY

I have always loved this song – “Valentine” by Lloyd.

MONDAY FLASHBACK

Boomerang” had some of the greatest songs on its soundtrack.  Here’s “I’d Die Without You” by P.M. Dawn.

I had to throw this clip in! LOL!

JOY’S PURSE PICK

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I adore this Kate Spade Daisy Shopper bag – with the dimensions of 10 1/2″H x 8 1/2″W x 5″D, it is the perfect size for work, school or travel.

JOY’S SHOE PICK

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This Via Spiga Shoe is too darling – not too loud in color and cool enough to wear with jeans.  The Equate Mary Jane Pump is a must have.

A QUICK HISTORY LESSON ON VALENTINE’S DAY

from Wikipedia.com

Valentine’s Day is a holiday celebrated on February 14. It is the traditional day on which lovers express their love for each other; sending Valentine’s cards, or offering candy. It is very common to present flowers on Valentine’s Day. The holiday is named after two among the numerous Early Christian martyrs named Valentine. The day became associated with romantic love in the circle of Geoffrey Chaucer in High Middle Ages, when the tradition of courtly love flourished.

The day is most closely associated with the mutual exchange of love notes in the form of “valentines.” Modern Valentine symbols include the heart-shaped outline and the figure of the winged Cupid. Since the 19th century, handwritten notes have largely given way to mass-produced greeting cards. The mid-nineteenth century Valentine’s Day trade was a harbinger of further commercialized holidays in the United States to follow. The U.S. Greeting Card Association estimates that approximately one billion valentines are sent each year worldwide, making the day the second largest card-sending holiday of the year behind Christmas. The association estimates that women purchase approximately 85 percent of all valentines.

GOD’S DEFINITION OF LOVE

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.   ~ I Corinthians 13:4-8

LOVE IS…ACCORDING TO THE SIMMPSONS

EIGHT HATEFUL THINGS WOMEN DO TO EACH OTHER

I got this through e-mail, so the author is unknown – if anyone knows who wrote this, please let us know! 🙂

It’s become the silent emotional killer among women. Women who are downright mean, malicious and disrespectful with each other. This trend is creating havoc in our relationships with each other, for it strikes the core of sisterhood. Real sisterhood can only exist when respect and trust stand unshakeable. In this particular, most men are quite opposite to us. For a man, a brother is a brother. However, what is most disturbing about our malicious ways is that we are passing on a legacy of a broken sisterhood to our daughters. Girls that are mean and catty are usually this way because their understanding is that this is a normal part of femaleness. They grow up to become mean and catty women who perpetuate a diseased sisterhood. To break this cycle we each need to make a conscious effort to validate all women. Be their friends or not.
Otherwise, we will continue to find ourselves moving within circles of female hostility, suspicion, and pain. Here is my list of the most detestable practices that we need to discontinue in order to heal our sisterhood:

1. Talking about each other – You are really not her friend if what you
have to say about her is so bad you can’t say it in front of her. If you
are a real friend you should be able to tell her your concerns for her
life to her face. If you have the need to tell others, but you haven’t
found the time to tell her – red lights should be flashing. Believe it
or not, gossiping is not an intrinsic part of being female. Women who
gossip do it not because it’s a woman-thing, but because they want to
elevate themselves and put other women in a place of inferiority.
Gossiping is just another symptom of deeper insecurities.
 
2. Fighting for men
– One of the most undignified things that any woman
can do is to fight, argue, or curse another woman over a man. It’s a
disgusting trend that used to be a school girl thing, but today adult
women are doing it too. If both of you are in conflict – because his
choice is not clear – then that means that he’s really not into any of
you. He’s probably playing both of you. That man really does not deserve
love or attention from either one of you.  Let him go.

3. Joining female gangs – Women who make you feel unwelcome and unwanted within their circle of friends are not to be trusted. Women cliques have
become common in the workplace, at church, in the neighborhood. Cliques
are the dwelling place of insecure women. Women who join cliques are
seeking refuge from their own lack of confidence by cocooning themselves
within this circle of supposed exclusivity. Again, the need to belong
to, or be part of a clique is also a sign of deeper insecurities.
Beware, cliques are usually encouraged and thrive on a type of gang mentality.

4. Undermining each other – Beware of any woman who can never celebrate your accomplishments with you. It could be a new boyfriend, a promotion,
an award, a new job, a new acquisition, weight loss. If she has nothing
positive to say to you about it, does not show emotional support, or
chooses to remain silent she is not a true friend. Real friends know how
to recognize and genuinely rejoice for our successes with pride.

5. Competing against each other – You need to get this straight. There
will always be another woman with nicer hair, a more caring husband or
boyfriend, better behaved children, a better paying job, a bigger house,
a more fashionable wardrobe – there will always be some woman with more
of what you don’t have. Consequently, the only person that you need to
compete against is yourself. Strive to be the best that you can be – for
you. Competing against other women to prove yourself superior is a
financial and emotional drainer. Because of this mindless competition we
become mean, envious and hypocritical. It is pointless.

6. Disrespecting boundaries – To survive peacefully every relationship
and every friendship must have clear boundaries. Good relationships
operate within margins of respect. Within this level of respect, privacy
and intimacy are keywords. Yes, you are my friend, but that doesn’t give
me the right to walk into your bedroom or your kitchen, unbeknownst to
you, and help myself to your stuff. I don’t do this not because you
won’t allow me to, but because I respect your privacy and your things.
Consequently, we both need to know and respect each other’s levels of
privacy and intimacy.
 
7. Crossing boundaries – This is similar to the above; the only
difference is that my respect of your boundaries should never depend on
my friendship with you. We need to respect women for the simple fact
that they are women. If she is a woman she is a sister. Period.
Therefore, from that understanding I will have the utmost respect for
her children, her man, her opinions, her choices, and for her as a
person. It amazes me how women are quick to disrespect another sister’s
boundaries, but feel offended if another woman does to them the same
exact thing. Honestly, that type of inconsistent behavior can only be
credited to some form of mental illness.
 
8. Exploiting our friendships – This is a major one. Why are you
friends? Do you only remember her being around whenever she could get
something from you? It doesn’t even have to be material. It could just
be your time or your positive energy. Does she happen to be always on
the receiving side, with you dishing out ton loads of yourself or your
stuff? Or is she your friend because of what you represent? It could be
that your husband’s position or yours, your possessions, your talent,
whatever, represents some form of achievement. Is she a friend because
that link to you places her on a higher platform? In a real friendship
appreciation, support, and loyalty must be reciprocal.

Have a wonderful week!

~ Joy

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A Few of My Favorite…….

Happy Holidays (Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah and Happy Kwanzaa) to all.

This writer’s strike is really bothering me. I am missing Conan O’Brien, The Daily Show and The Colbert Report. If there were not other important things going on in my life, I would have no reason to exist. I hope both parties can come to a suitable agreement, so I can see my men live on the TV once again.

My top 5 favorites shows are (not in any specific order) that I have never discussed on Pumps and Gloss before:

  1. Eureka on the SciFi Network – Mr. Maven turned me on to this show as he is a sci-fi fan, but not in a weird/nerdy way. The show is about a sheriff who moves to a town where all the residents are geniuses. One of the major employers of the town is Global Dynamic where scientists work on high-level, top secret assignments for the Department of Defense. The show has a nice mix of romance, science and mayhem, which I totally love. The ensemble cast includes Salli Richardson, Joe Morton, and Colin Ferguson.Eureka - SciFi Network
  2. The Nanny -I love this show. When the show first aired, I was a freshman in college. At the time, I liked how Nanny Fine dressed because I, too, loved the short skirts and wore them as often as I could. The show is a classic just like “I Love Lucy.”The Nanny - Source:Amazo.com
  3. I am not a huge animated fan, but I love “The Boondocks.” This sharply written animated show is definitely NOT for the kids. The show is based on the cartoon strip of the same name. The strip contained a biting critique of popular and political culture in the United States. My favorite episodes include Gangstalicious, a rapper who gets shot and kisses a fellow male rapper. I am still trying to figure out who he is supposed to represent.The Boondocks - Cartoon Network
  4. Chuck is a new show on NBC prime time. We missed a few episodes in the beginning. Thankfully, we were able to catch on easily to the show. “Chuck” is a show about 20-something techy nerd, who accidentally downloads NSA and CIA information into his brain. Chuck works at BuyMore as a tech support that works in the Nerd Herd (i.e. Geek Squad.) He works undercover for the government and each week battles, along with his spy handlers, terrorists and other evil-doers. Chuck - NBC.com
  5. Las Vegas is worth watching for Josh Duhamel alone. He is definitely fine!! I liked the kick-a$$ nature of the show, until James Caan decided to leave the show, I am sure for valid reasons. The new addition of Tom Selleck as casino owner is a, somewhat, dull . Would have been super nice, if Mike got the President of Operations job, considering he has a degree from MIT. Still I enjoy the show, but I waiting for an increase in kick assery.Las Vegas - NBC.com

What are some of your favorite television shows?

Decking the Halls with Boughs of Holly,

Mix Maven

Everything I Am

Happy Wednesday,

I realize that all artistic geniuses are troubled, which explains Kanye’s frequent rants and why sonme artists consider suicide as cure all for personal angst. (Mental illness should no longer be ignored!)

Saying all that, Kanye West was a good sport for doing the skits on Saturday Night Live of his obnoxious ranting and raving. The best quote of the skit, Kanye storms the podium lambasting the children for voting for “Drake and Josh.” He screams, “how’s kids gonna get taken seriously, if they keep making bad choices. I used to believe the children were our future, but f*** that!” Too funny!!!

You all need to cop [if you have not done so already] (are people still saying cop), “Graduation”. Kanye’s sound is not formulaic compared to other mainstream rappers, he fuses hip hop and reggae, alternative sounds even has Chris Martin of ColdPlay singing the hook to one of his songs. I enjoy this album, the current standouts are “Champion”, “Good Life” with T-Pain, the MJ sample of “PYT”, which the Ladies of P&G are certified members of this exclusive club, “Everything I Am,” a heartfelt anthem about being different in the rap game, and the heart wrenching, “Bittersweet Poetry,” which features the vocal stylings of John Mayer. (The first time I heard this song, I did not realize JM was on the track.) This angst-laden song laments a complicated love affair. Mayer croons, “I don’t want you, but I need you/I love you and hate you at the very same time.”

Can’t Tell Me Nothing

Good Life

Bittersweet Poetry

Joyful Radiance, not an avid SNL viewer, decided to watch the season premiere. Her favorite parody of the night was “High School Musical 3: Return of the Seniors.” She told me that she fell off her sofa when she heard LeBron sing, “On second thought/ I think I’ll stick around/Play a little ball/And have sex with your girlfriend.” She does not want anyone to know that she will be watching more often. 😉 That is our little secret. (Shhhh)

Have an awesome week

Mix Maven

P.S.

Sexual Carob has recommend some “toys” for me to try. Will report when I return from my anniversary excursion.

Glossy Monday – Sex and Love Week

Happy Monday Glossy Ones,

Welcome to Pumps and Gloss’ Sex and Love Week!  If you want to see something specific this week, feel free to let us know!

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MONDAY MELODIES

Since it is Sex and Love Week, I will share my favorite Sex song and favorite Love song.

Usher sets the mood with “Seduction.”  I would have posted “Alone” by Jodeci or “That’s What It’s Made For” by Usher, but I couldn’t find any video of these songs!

I will always be a fan of SWV!  I can listen to “Use Your Heart” every day.  And gotta love how Taj works her part out.

There are SO many other songs I could list – anything by Jesse Powell, Johnny Gill, Boyz II Men, Blackstreet, etc.  My current favorite song is “Valentine” by Lloyd – my husband is sick of hearing it! LOL!

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POETRY– “Love” by Shihan

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CHUCKLE – I received this as an e-mail forward; author is unknown.

How To Treat a Woman

  • Wine Her
  • Dine Her
  • Call Her
  • Hold Her
  • Surprise Her
  • Compliment Her
  • Smile at Her
  • Listen to Her
  • Laugh with Her
  • Cry with Her
  • Romance Her
  • Encourage Her
  • Believe in Her
  • Pray with Her
  • Pray for Her
  • Cuddle with Her
  • Shop with Her
  • Give Her Jewelry
  • Buy Her Flowers
  • Hold Her Hand
  • Write Her Love Letters
  • Go to the end of the earth and back for Her

How to Treat a Man

  • Show Up Naked
  • Bring Chicken Wings
  • Don’t Block the TV

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LOVE QUIZZES

LovingYou.com has wonderful printable love quizzes for you and your mate to share.  These quizzes will cause you to open up and learn more about each other.  There are 16 different quizzes ranging from Sexual Favorites to Beliefs.  A great communication tool, the printable quizzes can be found here.

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JUST FOR LAUGHS

Clarence Carter’s “Strokin’” always did crack me up!  The lyrics are just too much.  And how I wish I could find “Candy Licker” by Marvin Sease – the title says it all!

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ROMATIC RECIPES

Looking to set the mood right with a romantic meal?  Check out these sites for great meal ideas:

The Romantic

The Recipe Zaar

Advice Diva – She offers great tips on what qualities a romantic meal should have.

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The only thing that counts is faith expressing itself through love. ~ Galatians 5:6

Have a wonderful week and look out for more Sex and Love Week posts!

~ J.R.

Glossy Monday Variety ~ 09/17/2007

Happy Monday Glossy Ones,

I hope your weekend was better than mine – I have been sick since Wednesday!  DO NOT take your good health for granted!

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MONDAY MELODY

Kelly Rowland is back with “Ghetto” featuring Snoop Dogg.

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For those of us who are sick,

12 TIPS TO PREVENT COLDS AND FLU THE “NATURAL” WAY

(see WebMD for full details)

  1. Know when not to Treat Symptoms
  2. Blow your Nose often and the Right Way
  3. Treat that Stuffy Nose with Warm Salt Water
  4. Stay Warm and Rested
  5. Gargle
  6. Drink Hot Liquids
  7. Take a Steamy Shower
  8. Use a Salve Under Your Nose
  9. Apply Hot or Cold Packs around Your Congested Sinuses
  10. Sleep with an Extra Pillow under Your Head
  11. Do not Fly unless it is Necessary
  12. Eat Infection-Fighting Foods

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JOY’S BOOT PICK

I am really digging brown for the fall.  These boots by Aerosoles have to be comfortable since they make the most comfortable shoes ever.  The “Lane Squeeze” boot also comes in black leather.

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FACE TIME

My favorite face cleansing product, without a doubt, is Johnson and Johnson’s Clean and Clear.  I’m not trying to sound like a Proactiv commercial, but I have combination skin (oily/dry) and Clean and Clear keeps me just that – clean and clear!

These are the products in my bathroom drawer – I switch up daily and my skin has no complaints.

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Go the Clean and Clear site to get a $2.00 off coupon.

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OBAMA AND HILLARY

I found this cute parody of the top Democratic candiates for President.  When the time comes, whether you are Republican or Democrat, VOTE!

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DEVOTIONALS

“Our Daily Bread” from RBC Ministries is one of my favorites.  The monthly pocket size devotional arrives once a month and the cost is only what you are led to give.  You can also view their daily devotionals on their website.  This is a great resource for those who need a quick Word for the day.

I recieve “Heartlight” devotionals through e-mail daily.  You will receive a Scripture Verse, Thought and Prayer.  They also offer many more devotionals to choose from – check out the complete list here.

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MORE ANNIE LEE

Last week, I posted two prints by artist Annie Lee.  In the comments section, Miss Loden said I should check out “Power Shopping.”  I did and I love it!

Power Shopping

Looks like Mix Maven and Sensual Element on any given day. 🙂  Thanks Miss Loden –  and if you like “Power Shopping,” you will love “Maxed Out.”

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It’s September 17th and two of my dear friends are celebrating their birthdays today!

Happy Birthday Mix Maven!  Happy Birthday Sensual Element!

Happy Birthday Sensual Element!  Happy Birthday Mix Maven!

I love yall! 🙂  Any Virgos in the house? LOL!

Here are some Simpson clips to get you two in the Birthday spirit… 

Go Sen, it’s your birthday!  Go Mix, it’s your birthday!  If yall want to dance to Luke, go here!  LOL!

Have a Great Week Everyone!

~ J.R.

Trapped in the….

If you haven’t heard, R. Kelly is back with “Trapped in the Closet” Chapters 13 – 22. You can check out ALL the chapters at IFC.com/Trapped – can’t believe there are more chapters to come!

Chapter 12.5 is a summary of Chapters 1 – 12. The way R. keeps saying/singing “Oh s***” is just comical!

Check out “Weird Al” Yankovic’s version, “Trapped in the Drive-Thru.”

MADtv did a hilarious spoof too – “Trapped in the Cupboard.”

Flyin’ High

One Thursday, Mr. Maven and I were listening to NPR’s Fresh Air. I had not listened to NPR in awhile (not including listening to “This American Life”, Podcasts of “Wait, Wait Don’t Tell Me” and “Car Talk” or dodging “A Prairie Home Companion.” Why that show is 2 hours long is beyond me!!)

On this day, I learned about the parody singing duo (comprised of Bret McKenzie and Jemaine Clement) from New Zealand, Flight of the Conchords (FotC). Jemaine reminds me of Al Franken (SNL alum, writer, former radio talk show how host, and currently running for US Senate in Minnesota.) So if someone ever decides to make a Al Franken biopic, Jemaine should be a shoo-in for the lead role.

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I had never of them prior to the airing of this show. FotC’s sound is reminiscent of the BeeGees, Dancehall Reggae singers, Soul singers for the 60s and 70s, because they like to talk over the music and do crazy vocal acrobatics. Of course, Terry Gross had to play samples of their songs. I dissolved into laughter as Jemaine sang the lead and Bret sang the background vocals.

Looking at the room, I can tell that you.
Are the most beautiful girl in the…room.
(In the whole wide room).
And when you’re on the street, depending on the street.
I bet you are definitely in the top 3.
Good lookin girls on the street.

(Depending on the street.)

And then I heard,

You’re so beautiful.
You could be a waitress.
You’re so beautiful.
You could be a air hostess in the 60s.
You’re so beautiful.
You could be a part-time model.

Then I fell off my down-filled sofa, when I heard him sing this,

Cause you’re so beautiful…
Like a tree. Or a high class prostitute.
You’re so beautiful.
You could be a part time model.
But you’d probably still have to keep your normal job.

Check out the song in its entirety.

I have seen the pilot episode of “Flight of the Conchords,” I thought the show was funny, but awkward, at times.

I will definitely be checking out the rest of the episodes. I noticed that Sutton Foster, actress in the musical “The Drowsy Chaperone”, was in a few clips I saw. Maybe she will join the FotC in a song or two.

Here is another song I enjoy.

Keep Smiling,

Mix Maven

P.S.

Jamaica Heart

Big ups to the Land of my Birth, Jamaica for celebrating 45 years of Independence from Great Britain on August 6. There is much work to be done, but with God’s help, hard work, perseverance, we can achieve more and continue to leave a positive imprint in the world.