Stuff New Moms Need

There are plenty of new moms in my family.  They are all are excited about the babies, most of them are new moms and one has multiple children.  One’s life changes as soon as the baby is home.   I would think the hardest thing about being a new mom is getting enough sleep, which can negatively impact other activities.  I decided to come up with a list of things that I believe a new mom needs to help her adjust to her new bundle of joy.

Maternity

So every new mom needs:

1. Chef – A new mom is tired, which means she does not need to be operating anything with fire or heat.   Having a chef may be a luxury, BUT family members and friends should make sure the new family is eating sensible meals everyday (well, at least, the first 4 weeks after delivery.)

2. Housekeeper – A healing mother should not be vacuuming or doing dishes the first month after delivery.

3. Babysitter – Now, some moms do not like to leave their child(ren) with other people.  (I suggest that they read Find The Time.)  First time moms should begin scouting out prospective babysitters while pregnant.  (This is important if new mom live in a place where she has little to no family members.)  New parents will need to find someone they respect and trust to take care of their child(ren).  I also suggest not burning bridges with people who would be great sitters.  Start with leaving the child with the sitter for a couple of hours and phase in more hours as he or she gets older.  For example, if the anniversary weekend is coming up and want to leave the child with grandma (do not let that be the first time he or she is away from for a long period of time.)

4. Date Night –  Date night is very important to rekindle the sparks in your relationship.  (Main reason why #3 is very important.)   I know people who do not spend much time without their child(ren).  That is a bad sign in a relationship.  Will the relationship last when the child(ren) leave to go to school?  Preservation of the relationship should be on-going and deliberate.

5. Pampering – (No connection to Pampers Diapers) A new mom must be reminded that it is ok for her to pamper herself or to be pampered.  Take her to her favorite cosmetic counter or to a spa.  She is stressed out (but may not want to say), so nudge her (kindly and gently) to take some time for herself.  A happy mom means a happy baby and, ultimately, a happy household.

So check on your new moms TODAY!!!!

Mix Maven

Have Fun With A Condom

I know some people out there do not like condoms. I was on the Pill for the longest and my libido was lower than I liked. When I stopped using the Pill, and started using condoms on a regular basis, I was back to the Sexual Carob that I know and love.  Mr. Carob & I do not believe in the “condom-breaking” scenario that some cry about. If you know how to put a condom on, the likelihood of breaking or bursting is minimal.
Here are some fun tips from Cosmo:

How To Make Condoms More Fun

No need to bust out silly party tricks! Thanks to Cosmo’s genius tips, wearing protection will be so pleasurable, your man won’t ever bitch and moan about it again.

Check out Cosmo's genius condom tips! Wearing protection will be so pleasurable...Making condoms sound playful is easy (love glove, woody hoodie, peter parka…). But coming up with cutesy names isn’t enough to get a guy to like wearing one, despite the fact that they ward off unwanted pregnancies and STDs. Lucky for you, Cosmo has found ways to maximize pleasure while using protection. “It’s as simple as choosing the right rubber, making him feel at ease, and keeping the intensity high throughout the act,” says sexologist Yvonne K. Fulbright, PhD, author of Sex With Your Ex. When you do all three, “he won’t have the usual anxiety about losing his erection or not being able to climax.” What’s more, you’ll be able to milk more sensations out of safe sex too. We’re sharing it all right here.

Shopping Tips

Most people spend all of seven seconds choosing a condom, according to data from Trojan. But a last-minute dash to the drugstore can mean less satisfaction in the sack. Below, we explain how to pick a winner.

Size matters. The right fit completely changes how a guy experiences sex with a condom. One that’s too tight reduces sensation, takes longer to get on (which can deflate his erection), and is more likely to break. Quick sizing test: If you can’t roll the raincoat all the way down to the base of his penis, it’s not large enough. That said, an oversize one can slip off, and the extra material can make your dude feel inadequate.

Though the standard size of condoms is about 7 inches long, the length can vary up to an inch and girth sizes also range, so experiment with brands and styles (sites like list size categories).

Try a condom designed with a swirl or bulb at the end of it — it’ll say so on the box, usually with a word like twist or pleasure or spiral. These models fit securely around the base of his shaft while creating more friction near the nerve-packed head of his penis.

Consider a polyurethane prophylactic. Unlike latex, they transmit body heat, making intercourse feel more sensual. If you and your guy are committed and STD-free, try a lambskin condom. These also transmit heat, and many men swear this type feels more like skin on skin. But they only protect against pregnancy, since the natural, porous material can allow the transmission of STDs.

Let’s Get It On

Rolling one on doesn’t have to ruin the mood.

The faster you can slip on a safety sheath, the less likely he is to go limp. Minimize fumbling by opening the wrapper during foreplay. Pull the condom out, and place two drops of lube inside. This increases sensation at the supersensitive head of his penis. Place the opening over the top of his shaft. Hold it there with one hand, lightly squeeze the tip of the condom, and use the other hand to unravel it all the way down to the base of his member.

For a treat, use your mouth. Dab your lips with lube, then lightly suck the (nonspermicidal!) disc into your mouth with the nipple end inward. (Grossed out? Try a flavored love glove.) Carefully wrap your lips over your teeth and put your mouth at the head of his member. Push your lips against the ring of the condom, slide it down his shaft, and unroll the rest with your hand. Ta-da!

Pleasure-Maxing Moves

A condom needn’t come between you, him, and a climax.

Squeeze your legs together in missionary or doggie-style to create extra pressure.

Make a V with your pointer and middle fingers, then place it between your legs. Press it against the base of his penis as he thrusts. This gives him more stimulation where the condom is tightest (i.e., most numbing).

Buy a vibrating ring — Trojan, Durex, and LifeStyles sell them. It’s a plastic band attached to a buzzing nub. Place the band around the base of the condom, with the nub facing your clitoris, and enjoy the pulsating ride.

Find this article at: http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/sex/How-to-Make-Condoms-More-Fun

Have Fun,

Sexual Carob

Household Item or Sex Toy

Sex toy producers are coming up with clever items that can be confused as traditional household items.

What about this blush brush?

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Can you spot which item is for the household or sex toy?

Take the household item vs. sex toy quiz.

Let me know your score.  I got 9/12, which is not too bad of a score.

Mix Maven 

Stuff Pregnant Women Like

This is the year of the Baby in my family. Four babies will be born in 2008. The current score is 2 out and 2 to go. 😉

I notice that the moms-to-be are all different and yet the same.

I have noticed that pregnant women like (not in any order):

  1. Consuming food they would not normally eat. One of my cousins loves sweet desserts (sidebar: does not include any sweet vegetable, which she already found utterly disgusting), especially an occasional cookie or yellow cake with lemon frosting. Currently, she is totally disgusted by any sweet food or drink. She told me she is buying juice that with 17g-25g of sugar (no high fructose corn syrup.) Very cool to me! 😉 My favorite cousin was chowing down on soul food in her first trimester, which is funny because she does not normally eat soul food.
  2. Banana Republic – Two of my cousins have been going to Banana Republic to purchase maternity clothes. (No, BR does not sell maternity clothes) The blouson tops and dresses allow them to hit up the clearance rack for cute clothes without having to spend the high price of maternity branded clothes.Banana Republic Rouge TopBanana Republic Silver Flutter Top
  3. Pregnancy websites and blogs. Books are great, but pregnant women love to read these websites and blogs because they get updated information and cool 3-D womb shots and fetal development e-mails. Check out Nymbler (a baby naming tool, quite innovative. Select your names that you like and the wizard will help you find other names that you might like) and BabyCenter.com
  4. Guilt – This can be a valuable tool when asking husband to trek in the middle of the night to get food or get a glass of water downstairs in the kitchen. This should be used sparingly because you do not want to cause any feelings of resentment.
  5. Looking at paint store websites. My favorite cousin’s latest obsession (again) is BenjaminMoore.com. She loves to decorate anyway and pregnancy has brought on a new project for her. She has been creating different color combos for me to check out. Oh fun times!!Benjamin Moore Paint
  6. Watching or recording the Baby Story on TLC. My cousin told me about how some of these women, the first-timers, want to have natural, drug-free delivery. I asked her would she do that and her answer is “HELL NOOOOO!!”
  7. Shopping for nursery furniture. (see #5)
  8. Shopping for baby clothes and accessories
  9. Expensive diaper bags. On my cousin’s wish list: A Louis Vuitton Diaper bag (that is a no-go area) Louis Vuitton Diaper Bag - Source: Eluxury.com or a Coach (more acceptable) Coach Signature Stripe Large Tote
  10. Talking about their pregnancies. My fave cousin finds this conversation tends to be initiated by friends who already have kids and want to tell her about what they went through. She finds most of the information irrelevant to her situation.

I will update from time to time. Fun learning new things about motherhood.

Keep Believing,

Sexual Carob

Glossy Monday Variety ~ 11/12/2007

Happy Monday Glossy Ones!

I hope you all had a great weekend.  I have been sick since last Saturday – yes, over a week now, so consider yourselves special because I dragged myself out of bed to do this post! LOL!  I’m tired, so this post will be short and sweet.

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MONDAY MELODY

How I wish I was doing “Just Fine.”  Here is Mary J. Blige’s new jam – can’t wait to hear her new cd.

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MONDAY FLASHBACK

I can never get enough of New Edition – they are my boy band of choice for always! LOL!  The “Home Again” Reunion cd is in my top ten favorite cds.  Here is “Hit Me Off” (above).  Who knew BBD would jam the way they did?  Here is “Poison” (below) – “Do Me” will have to be saved for a Friday.  😉

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TREATING AND PREVENTING COLDS from Tylenol.com

Believe it or not, it’s possible to sneak through the season without getting the cold that everybody else has. Below are tips on how to do it. And just in case you still catch a cold, we’ve got tips for feeling better until the cold goes away.

Tips for Preventing Colds

  • Frequently disinfect surfaces in your home and office-especially things like phones and doorknobs that many people touch.
  • Wash your hands often.

Tips for Treating Colds

  • A cold has to run its course (usually around a week), but you can make yourself more comfortable while your body fights it off by getting plenty of rest, and drinking plenty of fluids.
  • Stay comfortable. Treat the symptoms that bother you most.
  • A humidifier may help ease your congestion and throat discomfort.
  • To avoid spreading the illness, try to stay away from others if you can-and wash your hands frequently.

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JOY’S BOOT PICK

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I love this BCBGirls Karla Knee High Boot.  I like it in all the colors offered, but I especially like it in the Vintage Pewter because you get the imprint on the shaft of the boot.  Hot color and design – it’s a win-win.

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MONDAY PRAISE

Whatever happened to Take 6?  What great harmony!  Here is “I L-O-V-E -U” (above) and “The Biggest Part of Me.” (below)

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A cheerful look brings joy to the heart, and good news gives health to the bones. ~Proverbs 15:30

Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones. ~Proverbs 16:24

But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was upon him, and by his wounds we are healed. ~Isaiah 53:5

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Stay Well Glossy Ones!  It’s back to bed I go…

~ Joy

You’re Beautiful

Hey Pumps and Glossy Ones,

As all of you know, I luvs the make-up. I will say that I can get enough it! (Yes, you read that correctly.) Every now again, I do not want to buy any makeup. But when I got the e-mail from Beauty.com, I had to check it out. Beauty.com is offering 20% off all products ON NOVEMBER 7, 2007 ONLY!!! (You have until 11:59 PST.) Plus, you will receive special samples from the Sample Center. The only restriction is that items purchased from Drugstore.com (partner site) will not receive the 20% discount. And the great thing is that NO CODE NECESSARY!!

You can find top beauty brands like Urban Decay (my new fave), theBalm, Lorac and CARGO. You can also purchase skincare products, beauty tools and other related beauty needs.

Beauty.com is great because each shipped orders earns you a 5% rebate to be used at the beginning of each quarter. The more spend, the more you receive.

UPDATE – click on —-> Beauty.com to activate the 20% discount.

Have fun shopping,

Mix Maven

Glossy Monday Variety ~ 10/22/2007

Happy Monday Glossy Ones!

I hope all of you had a wonderful weekend.  We have been having a wonderfully warm fall thus far.  So grateful for sunny skies!

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MONDAY MELODY

I have been hearing this song on the radio, but always missed who it was singing it.  I would have never guessed it was Trey Songz!  “Can’t Help But Wait” has a nice groove to it and I can’t wait to see the continuation of the story line.

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 GOD’S MERCY by Kari West from “Dare To Trust, Dare To Hope Again”

When tears are the only language you know, God hears.

When darkness envelops your way, God sees.

When pain forces you off course, God stabilizes.

When loss wears you down, God comforts.

When grief suspends your progress and saps hope, God remains.

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ELLEN’S PUPPY BLUES

I just wanted to give my two cents on this issue since I am a puppy fan (my puppy will be one next month!).  I certainly understand that there was a contract signed stating that Iggy should be returned to the organization if he did not work out with Ellen and Portia.  At the same time, I think Mutts and Moms went about it the wrong way.  I see nothing wrong with Iggy going to Ellen’s hairdresser and having Mutts and Moms check out their home.  It kinda feels like Mutts and Moms was looking to make an example out of this situation.  In my opinion, it’s better to just do good than to follow the rules.

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JOY’S PURSE PICK

If it were up to me, this site would be called Purses, Pumps and Gloss.  I am addicted to purses like Mix and Sen are addicted to shoes.  I got a really neat storage organizer from Ikea and I have it filled with purses already.  So, from time to time, I will share a purse that has grabbed my attention.

My Mom recently got a new Coach purse, and while I had seen it on the website, it really didn’t grab me until I saw my Mom’s in person.

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The Bleecker Signature Duffle is so sharp in person.  I love the leather on it. 

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JOY’S SHOE PICK

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I love the Steve Madden Lezlie pump.  It comes in so many colors, so you are bound to find one you really like.  The all black (above) is from SteveMadden.com (where there are 16 color combinations) and the Burgundy (below) is from Zappos.com (where there are four color combinations).

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NEWS – LIPSTICKS CONTAIN LEAD from Yahoo! News

By Karen Jacobs Thu Oct 11, 6:59 PM ET

ATLANTA (Reuters) – Lipsticks tested by a U.S. consumer rights group found that more than half contained lead and some popular brands including Cover Girl, L’Oreal and Christian Dior had more lead than others, the group said on Thursday.

The Campaign for Safe Cosmetics said tests on 33 brand-name red lipsticks by the Bodycote Testing Group in Santa Fe Spring, California, found that 61 percent had detectable lead levels of 0.03 to 0.65 parts per million (ppm).

Lipstick, like candy, is ingested. The Campaign for Safe Cosmetics, a coalition of public health, environmental and women’s groups, said the FDA has not set a limit for lead in lipstick.

One-third of the lipsticks tested contained an amount of lead that exceeded the U.S. Food and Drug Administration’s 0.1 ppm limit for lead in candy — a standard established to protect children from ingesting lead, the group said. Thirty-nine percent of the lipsticks tested had no discernible lead, it said.

“It’s critical that manufacturers reformulate their product,” said Stacy Malkan, a co-founder of the coalition. “It’s possible to make lipsticks without lead, and all companies should be doing that.”

Lead can cause learning, language and behavioral problems such as reduced school performance and increased aggression. Pregnant women and young children are particularly vulnerable to lead exposure, the group said in its statement. Lead has also been linked to infertility and miscarriage, it said.

Procter & Gamble Co‘s makes Cover Girl brand and France‘s L’Oreal is one of the largest cosmetic companies in the world.

Over the last three months, more than 20 million toys made in China have been recalled, mostly due to the use of lead paint.

The coalition said that some less expensive brands it had tested, such as Revlon, had no detectable levels of lead, while the more expensive Dior Addict brand had higher levels than some other brands.

The Cosmetic, Toiletry and Fragrance Association trade group said in a statement that lead was a naturally occurring element that was not intentionally added to cosmetics.

The FDA has “set strict limits for lead levels allowed in the colors used in lipsticks, and actually analyze most of these to ensure they are followed,” the association’s statement said. “The products identified in the (CSC) report meet these standards.”

L’Oreal’s U.S. arm said its products are reviewed and tested by a safety team that includes toxicologists, pharmacists and doctors.

“All the brands of the L’Oreal Group are in full compliance with FDA regulations” as well as safety requirements in international markets, L’Oreal USA said in a statement.

P&G said in a statement that the quantity of lead a consumer might be exposed to from its lip product “is hundreds of times less than the amount that she would get from eating, breathing and drinking water.”

“Lead builds up in the body over time and lead-containing lipstick applied several times a day, every day, can add up to significant exposure levels. The latest studies show there is no safe level of lead exposure,” said Dr. Mark Mitchell, president of the Connecticut Coalition for Environmental Justice.

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MONDAY PRAISE

I went out of town recently and saw LaShell Griffin in a play and WOW– she can sing, sing, sing.  This is the title track from her first cd, Free.  Great CD – I love this song and “Get Away.”  LaShell is the winner of Oprah’s Pop Star competition.

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We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. 

~ 2 Corinthians 4:8-9

Have a Wonderful Week!

~ Joy

Glossy Monday ~ 10/15/2007

Happy Monday Glossy Ones!

Pumps and Gloss is back from vacation!  Today’s post is all about  Breast Cancer Awareness.

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Today’s post will be short because my Mom and I walked five miles Saturday in the Making Strides for Breast Cancer Walk.  It was a beautiful day and it was so good to see so many people out for such a great cause.  The news reported that there were over 10,000 people at the walk.  My Mom is good today, but yours truly is a little sore.  It’s back to bed I go as soon as I post!

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American Idol Finalist Kimberley Locke is involved with the cause.  Kimberley has teamed up with General Mills to present Pink Together, a wonderful site dedicated to increasing breast cancer awareness for women of color.

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FIVE STEPS TO A BREAST SELF EXAM from BreastCancer.org

Step 1: Begin by looking at your breasts in the mirror with your shoulders straight and your arms on your hips.

Here’s what you should look for:

  • breasts that are their usual size, shape, and color
  • breasts that are evenly shaped without visible distortion or swelling

If you see any of the following changes, bring them to your doctor’s attention:

  • dimpling, puckering, or bulging of the skin
  • a nipple that has changed position or an inverted nipple (pushed inward instead of sticking out)
  • redness, soreness, rash, or swelling

Step 2: Now, raise your arms and look for the same changes.

Step 3: While you’re at the mirror, gently squeeze each nipple between your finger and thumb and check for nipple discharge (this could be a milky or yellow fluid or blood).

Step 4: Next, feel your breasts while lying down, using your right hand to feel your left breast and then your left hand to feel your right breast. Use a firm, smooth touch with the first few fingers of your hand, keeping the fingers flat and together.

Cover the entire breast from top to bottom, side to side—from your collarbone to the top of your abdomen, and from your armpit to your cleavage.

Follow a pattern to be sure that you cover the whole breast. You can begin at the nipple, moving in larger and larger circles until you reach the outer edge of the breast. You can also move your fingers up and down vertically, in rows, as if you were mowing a lawn. Be sure to feel all the breast tissue: just beneath your skin with a soft touch and down deeper with a firmer touch. Begin examining each area with a very soft touch, and then increase pressure so that you can feel the deeper tissue, down to your ribcage.

Step 5: Finally, feel your breasts while you are standing or sitting. Many women find that the easiest way to feel their breasts is when their skin is wet and slippery, so they like to do this step in the shower. Cover your entire breast, using the same hand movements described in Step 4.

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Here are other great stores offering Breast Cancer Pink Ribbon items to raise money for awareness and finding a cure:

Walgreens

Macy’s

Target

Bed Bath and Beyond

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Be Blessed Glossy Ones!

~ J.R.

Coach’s Breast Cancer Awareness Items

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See Coach.com for details.

Think Pink

Since October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month, we will be bringing you wonderful pink items that can be purchased in support of Breast Cancer research.

Today is the Bloomingdale’s Exclusive Umbrella.

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Description from Bloomingdales.com: Join Bloomingdale’s and show your support for the Breast Cancer Research Foundation. The Bloomingdale’s logo is united with the pink Breast Cancer ribbon. Bloomingdale’s will be donating all net proceeds from the sale of this umbrella to The Breast Cancer Research Foundation and awareness programs For this information, visit bcrfcure.org.

For $16.00, you can be stylish in the rain and contribute to a wonderful cause.