Monday Variety

Happy Monday Glossy Ones!


Sojourner Truth gave her famous “Ain’t I a Woman?” speech at the 1851 Women’s Rights Convention in Akron, Ohio. (The women’s rights movement grew in large part out of the anti-slavery movement.) No formal record of the speech exists, but Frances Gage, an abolitionist and president of the Convention, recounted Truth’s words.

Several ministers attended the second day of the Woman’s Rights Convention, and were not shy in voicing their opinion of man’s superiority over women. One claimed “superior intellect”, one spoke of the “manhood of Christ,” and still another referred to the “sin of our first mother.”

Suddenly, Sojourner Truth rose from her seat in the corner of the church.

“For God’s sake, Mrs.Gage, don’t let her speak!” half a dozen women whispered loudly, fearing that their cause would be mixed up with Abolition.

Sojourner walked to the podium and slowly took off her sunbonnet. Her six-foot frame towered over the audience. She began to speak in her deep, resonant voice: “Well, children, where there is so much racket, there must be something out of kilter, I think between the Negroes of the South and the women of the North – all talking about rights – the white men will be in a fix pretty soon. But what’s all this talking about?”

Sojourner pointed to one of the ministers. “That man over there says that women need to be helped into carriages, and lifted over ditches, and to have the best place everywhere. Nobody helps me any best place. And ain’t I a woman?”

Sojourner raised herself to her full height. “Look at me! Look at my arm.” She bared her right arm and flexed her powerful muscles. “I have plowed, I have planted and I have gathered into barns. And no man could head me. And ain’t I a woman?”

“I could work as much, and eat as much as man – when I could get it – and bear the lash as well! And ain’t I a woman? I have borne children and seen most of them sold into slavery, and when I cried out with a mother’s grief, none but Jesus heard me. And ain’t I a woman?”

The women in the audience began to cheer wildly.


I love “Bad Habit” from Destiny Child’s “Destiny Fulfilled” cd.  This song can speak to all our bad habits!  Sing Kelly! 

BTW, as of August 9th, Ms. Kelly stands at 161,600 albums sold.  Ouch!


Sensual Element and I got together last week to catch up.  We had the best food at Chili’s and then we hit Target and Old Navy to walk it off. 🙂  Old Navy has a LOT of cute items on sale.  While bopping to Rhianna, we saw such tops.  Check out this adorable top Sen bought me for my birthday:

Sen is holding it until my birthday – nine days and counting until I can wear this adorable top!  It comes in white too.

Old Navy has a lot of cute pieces – you will find up to 3X mixed in with all their selections.  They have a area of their site dedicated speficially to Plus Sizes.  Here are some cute pieces:


From time to time, I will share a mini review of what lip glosses I have purchased.

Black Radiance Radiant Lip Gloss

Color = Radiant Red

Ounces/Price/Location = 0.2 ounces for $2.48 at Wal-Mart ($2.99 on

Applicator = Angled “Doe Foot” Brush

Sticky? = Yes

Shimmer? = Yes

Coverage = Sheer, Subtle Color – Medium Coverage when Layered

Purchase A Second Tube?= No

Try Different Colors? = Yes

Thoughts = I would recommend this shine for work because it is an understated, sheer gloss.  I would not recommend this for a night out because it does not provide full coverage.  Based on the cost, a good purcahse if you are trying gloss or a different color for the first time.


I did a post about the Starbury gym shoes for women a few weeks ago.  My Mom and I were at the mall last week, so we went in to check them out.  I tried on these gym shoes……

….and they are SO cute!  Loved them!  So I am strolling through the store, box in hand, when I see my Mom looking at sandals by Bitten, Sarah Jessica Parker’s line.  I had no idea Bitten had shoes!  Why, oh why did I see a pair of must have sandals!  This is the best picture I could find of them.

The pair I will be searching for this week are red with a red metallic trim.  Bitten has a turquoise pair with silver trim – adorable.  So I put the gym shoes back in hopes of finding the sandals!


from Thank You, Lord

by Maya Angelou (Part 1 of 2)

Thank you, Lord

I want to thank you, Lord

For life and all that’s in it.

Thank You for the day

And for the hour and for the minute.

I know many are gone,

I’m still living on,

I want to thank You.

I went to sleep last night

And I arose with the dawn,

I know that there are others

Who’re still sleeping on.

They’ve gone away,

You’ve let me stay.

I want to thank You.

If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.

Romans 12:18 NIV

 Wishing You a Peaceful Week,

~ J.R.

Joy-Filled Monday

Happy Monday Glossy Ones,

Starting today, I will be posting on Mondays instead of Wednesdays. To get your week kicked off right, there will be a bit of encouraging pieces and inspiration mixed with any and every thing for my Ladies!


  • Do not be afraid to start.
  • Dare to dream big.
  • Do not be afraid to try something new.
  • Take things one step at a time.
  • Keep moving forward.
  • The only thing that can stop you is you.

~ Pat Williams, Condensed from “Secrets from the Mountain” – from Lists to Live by – The Fourth Collection, 2002


“Golden” by Jill Scott is the kind of song you can wake up to each and every day! Jill inspires us to embrace our freedom and really live for the day.


For those of you who are looking for a workout routine, I HIGHLY suggest Donna Richardson’s “Sweating In The Spirit.” I purchased this DVD from WalMart a year ago and it is great! What makes it great?

  • The exercise music is all original recordings by Gospel singers
  • Appearances by Kirk Franklin (who will have you laughing), Shirley Murdock and Yolanda Adams
  • There are three exericise routines – you can choose to do one, two or all three
  • Easy to follow instructions

I also purchased Carmen Electra’s “Aerobic Striptease” DVD a year ago (Sen also did a piece on this DVD). If you want to feel sexy and get in shape, this is the DVD for you. The great things about this DVD is:

  • There are three different reviews of the routine – the step by step, the walk through with verbal instructions, and the walk through with music only
  • You will sweat! It is definitely a workout!
  • Cute flirting tips if you are planning to do this routine for your sweetie

What I did not like – there is only the one routine! I wish the DVD was longer, but nevertheless, you will come away feeling energized.


I am a size 14 (some 12s) and while I think I am a “normal” size, designers these days consider me plus size. There are so many fab clothes out there, but designers just refuse to accommodate my “ethnicity” (a.k.a. my behind and “chesticles” as Mix would say). So I will share some of my favorite picks from designers who look out for us who are size 14 and higher.

I am a HUGE fan of denim, so the right pair of jeans is essential to me. Kimora Lee Simmons’ Baby Phat provides a great fit for me. Thin or thick, who doesn’t love a great pair of stretch jeans? With adorable tops and accessories galore, Baby Phat covers you from head to toe. You can also find great Baby Phat plus size pieces in T.J. Maxx and Marshall’s.


According to, as of Thursday, August 2nd, Kelly Rowland has sold 151,900 copies of “Ms. Kelly.” I went to Target to purcahse “Ms. Kelly” the week it came out and every copy was gone! As I received my rain check, I thought how great for Kelly. Check out Kelly’s official website to hear a sample of her album. My favorite is “Come Back!”

POETRY – The Comforter by Emily King

I fought the tears and ran outside

From human eye I’d try to hide

But there are eyes that always see

He ever watches over me

And so He sent a gentle breeze

to kiss my cheek and comfort me.

~ From Bedside Prayers by June Cotner, 1997


I LOVE this Marc Fisher shoe! The “Arve” is $89.00 at Macy’s and on Amazon. I am seeing a lot of grey for the Fall….now if I could only find a grey Coach to match. 🙂

From the fullness of His grace, we have received one blessing after another.

~John 1:16 NIV

Have a Joy-Filled Week!

Joyful Radiance

Women Working It Out!

Love and Respect to the Plus Size Woman! 

I love that the Glamazons are doing their thing on America’s Got Talent!

The Glams have their own website  and I found the Museum of Sex on their Links page.  Alright now Glamazons!

The Glams also have a MySpace page – “The Pussycat Song” is a trip! LOL!

I also want to commend Mo’Nique and the contestants on “Mo’Nique’s Fat Chance.”  They did a photoshot with body paint and nothing else…. 

Photo from

I LOVE the confidence of these ladies!  The confidence these ladies exhibit should encourage us to do whatever it is we want to do, despite our weight, height, skin color, and features (not that I want to pose naked with body paint, but you get the idea) 🙂 .  Let’s value our diverse beauty.

Last but not least, let us applaud The Trendsetter!  She brings us posts that highlight the curvy woman.  The Trendsetter has great plus size related blogs on her blogroll.  If any of our readers know of any other blogs that celebrate the curvy woman, please share them with us!


Because We Ego Trip


Pretty women wonder where my secret lies
I’m not cute or built to suit a model’s fashion size
But when I start to tell them
They think I’m telling lies.
I say
It’s in the reach of my arms
The span of my hips
The stride of my steps
The curl of my lips.
I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman
That’s me.

I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please
And to a man
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees
Then they swarm around me
A hive of honey bees.
I say
It’s the fire in my eyes
And the flash of my teeth
The swing of my waist
And the joy in my feet.
I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman
That’s me.

Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them
They say they still can’t see.
I say
It’s in the arch of my back
The sun of my smile
The ride of my breasts
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman
That’s me.

Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud
When you see me passing
It ought to make you proud.
I say
It’s in the click of my heels
The bend of my hair
The palm of my hand
The need for my care.
‘Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman
That’s me.

Ego Tripping (there may be a reason why) by Nikki Giovanni

I was born in the congo
I walked to the fertile crescent and built
    the sphinx
I designed a pyramid so tough that a star
    that only glows every one hundred years falls
    into the center giving divine perfect light
I am bad

I sat on the throne
    drinking nectar with allah
I got hot and sent an ice age to europe
    to cool my thirst
My oldest daughter is nefertiti
    the tears from my birth pains
    created the nile
I am a beautiful woman

I gazed on the forest and burned
    out the sahara desert
    with a packet of goat’s meat
    and a change of clothes
I crossed it in two hours
I am a gazelle so swift
    so swift you can’t catch me

    For a birthday present when he was three
I gave my son hannibal an elephant
    He gave me rome for mother’s day
My strength flows ever on

My son noah built new/ark and
I stood proudly at the helm
    as we sailed on a soft summer day
I turned myself into myself and was
    men intone my loving name
    All praises All praises
I am the one who would save

I sowed diamonds in my back yard
My bowels deliver uranium
    the filings from my fingernails are
    semi-precious jewels
    On a trip north
I caught a cold and blew
My nose giving oil to the arab world
I am so hip even my errors are correct
I sailed west to reach east and had to round off
    the earth as I went
    The hair from my head thinned and gold was laid
    across three continents

I am so perfect so divine so ethereal so surreal
I cannot be comprehended except by my permission

I mean…I…can fly
    like a bird in the sky…

Relax with A Scrub

Happy Wednesday!

How I love scrubs!

Not the TLC type (I miss TLC, “R U the Girl” was funny, but we need some new music from T-Boz and Chili – I did hear that Chili is now signed to Akon’s music label now)…

Not the TV Show Scrubs (although I do love that show – J.D. and Turk both tickle me)…

I love a great scented scrub for use in the bath tub or shower.  In our rushed lives, we need to take some time to relax, to chill, to “chillax” as Bernie Mac would say (I LOVE his show!).  Scrubs come in all kinds of scents nowadays, including aromatherapy scents that ease tension.  A scrub can be either salt based or sugar based.  I am a salt fan overall, but some sugars are cool too.  Scrubs remove dead skin and leaves your body feeling baby soft!  I call it “Heaven in a Jar!” 

Here are a few my favorites…..

I am a confessed Bath and Body Works junkie.

True Blue Spa -

 “Take Your Sweet Time” by True Blue Spa at Bath and Body Works is the first scrub I ever bought.  It is cream based (no lather), but it smells great and it is a TRUE scrub.  It contains lots and lots of scrubbing beads that will polish your skin to perfection.

Aromatherapy Sugar Scrub -

This is my favorite sugar scrub.  I love the smell of mint, so Eucalyptus Spearmint (which they list as having RELAXing properties) is my favorite scent in the Bath and Body Works’ line of Aromoatherapy (Tranquil Mint is ok, but I like this one better).   This sugar scrub has an oil mixed with it that leaves your skin not only polished, but moisturized.  Bath and Body Works also has a Classic Pleasures Salt Scrub with oil that Mix Maven and I absolutely love, but it is hard to find.  I have it in Cotton Blossom (my hubby is hooked on it too) and Mix has Coconut Lime Verbana.  Gotta find Mango Mandarin for Sensual Element!

 Sweet Pea Scrub -

For those of you who love lather, try the Classic Pleasures line of “Daily High Lather Scrub” in your favorite scent.  Love it in Sweet Pea!

Caress -

I also love “Tahitian Renewal” by Caress (around $4 per bottle at Target).  It smells sooooooo good – it grabs you and takes you to a tropical place.  Target is now selling samples bottles of it – be sure to try it!  It has good lather and rinses off well.  I promise you will love it!

Go run some water and scrub up!  Pamper Yourself!

Joyful Radiance

Loving You

Do you love yourself? I know that you are funny, bright, smart, adorable, and pretty. I know that, but do you?

Can you look in the mirror and honestly say, “I love what I see, I love me!”? Do you cringe when you get out the shower and catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror? Do you hate the summer season because that means less clothes to hide under?

If you can say you love yourself, you are one of few who genuinely has a healthy love for themselves. For the rest of us, it can be a tiring, uphill battle.

Hatred paralyzes life; love releases it.
Hatred confuses life; love harmonizes it.
Hatred darkens life; love illuminates it
Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

I read a wonderful book called “Who Calls Me Beautiful” by Regina Franklin that will open your eyes to how God sees you and how we should see ourselves. The book also goes into great depth regarding the messages society and the media sends women and girls alike. I recommend this book highly for anyone, at any age, who is struggling with self image/self esteem issues, big or small.

Seek and find the love inside of you! While I realize that we all have different faiths, I encouarge you to seek God and His unchanging love to sustain you and empower you to love yourself.

You are more beautiful than you realize,

Joyful Radiance

Lessons from My Puppy

Lesson #1 – Always know what’s going on around you/Be Alert!/It’s ok to be nosey sometimes….

Nosey - Joy’s Pics of Pup

Lesson #2 – It is important to get rest…

Rest - Joy’s Pics of Pup

Lots and Lots of Rest…

Resting Pup on Blanket - Joy’s Pics of Puppy

Babpy Pup Sleeping - Joy’s Pic of Puppy

Lesson #3 – Make Sure You Eat Right!

Pup Eating - Joy’s Pics of Pup

Lesson #4 – Although life can sometimes be confusing….

Pup - Joy’s Pics of Pup

There is always a reason to smile!

Smiling Pup - Joy’s Pics of Pup

Lesson #5 – There is nothing like a good bath…

Bath Time - Joy’s Pics of Pup

Lesson #6 – There is a time to be serious…..

Puppy Love - Joy’s Pics of Pup

Lesson #7 – There is a time to play!

Play! - Joy’s Pics of Pup

Laugh = Joy’s Pics of Pup

Comes The Dawn

I took a class last Spring dealing with counseling women.  The Professor shared this poem with the class and I have been in love with it ever since.  The title alone reminds me that we always have a new day to look forward to.  Enjoy! ~ J.R.

Comes The Dawn by Veronica Shoffstall

After a while, you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul.

And you learn that love doesn’t mean possession and company doesn’t mean security, and loneliness is universal.

And you learn that kisses aren’t contracts, and presents aren’t promises…

And you begin to accept your defeats with your head up and your eyes open, with the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child.

And you learn to build all of your hope on today, because tomorrow’s ground is too uncertain, and futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight.  Yet each step taken in a new direction creates a path towards the promise of a brighter dawn.

After a while you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much.

So plant your own garden, and nourish your own soul instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.

And you learn that you really can endure…

That you really are strong,

and you really do have worth.

And you learn and you learn…

With every good-bye you learn.

Don’t Take No for an Answer

I was talking with a friend recently who applied to a doctoral program.  She was denied admission by her school of choice – she had not applied to other schools.  She told me she was not going to pursue the degree any further.  That was that.

I’m not normally the fussing type (I can see my husband rolling his eyes now), but I had to fuss at this dear friend.

Ladies, there are times when the world will tell us NO in no uncertain terms.  That does not mean in any way, shape or form that we are not worthy or we are not good enough.  There are other lovers.  There are other jobs.  There are other schools.  There is always an alternative.  Where there is a “Plan A,” there should always be a “Plan B.”

Don’t lay down and die!  I love this version of this song.

If you don’t follow your dreams, you will, in essence, die.  I know that sounds drastic, but as time passes, you will have regrets and that is just not the life I want for you!

I leave you with this thought.  Langston Hughes’ poem “A Dream Deferred” says:

What happens to a dream deferred?

Does it dry up
like a raisin in the sun?
Or fester like a sore–
And then run?
Does it stink like rotten meat?
Or crust and sugar over–
like a syrupy sweet?

Maybe it just sags
like a heavy load.

Or does it explode?

Don’t Take No for an Answer!  YES is out there waiting for you! 

Joyful Radiance

Books to Uplift You

Happy Wednesday!

From time to time, I will share with you Authors and Books that have encouraging messages.  Today is the Joyce Meyer Edition.

Beauty for Ashes” by Joyce Meyer is a riveting book.  In this book, Joyce shares her life testimony about the abuse she suffered at the hands of her father,  how it affected her interaction with men, and how God led her to healing.  The subtitle of “Beauty for Ashes” is “Receiving Emotional Healing” – Joyce provides insight on how to let go of the past and how to heal from the hurts in your life.  I recommend this book HIGHLY!  Get it and be healed!

A dear friend of mine bought me Joyce’s “Seven Things That Steal Your Joy” for my birthday.  Joyce provides “Joy Stealers” and solutions titled “Joy Keepers” to “overcome the obstacles to your happiness” (that is the subtitle of the book).  Great book if you are seeking to overcome negative issues you may be facing.

I am SO looking forward to Joyce’s new book, “Reduce Me To Love.”  After reading Max Lucado’s “A Love Worth Giving,” the subject of Love has become so intriguing.  Max will be featured in a future posting – his books are thought provoking and enlightening.  Can’t wait to read Joyce’s take on the subject. 

Sidebar:  There are four types of love = Agape (Unconditional), Eros (Romantic), Philia (Brother/Sisterhood), and Compassion.  May you be blessed with all four!

Joyce Meyer is presenting her 25th Annual Women’s Conference in St. Louis, Missouri September 20-22, 2007.  Special Guests include Bishop T.D. Jakes and CeCe Winans.  I will definitely be there!

Joyce shares scriptures around the theme “Are You Hurting Emotionally?”

Have a Wonder-Filled Wednesday!

Joyful Radiance